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Hong Kong Nightlife: Best Bars and Nightclubs (2019)

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Note: This Hong Kong nightlife review was written by a reader who has lived over 7 years in the city.

One of the richest cities in the world, Hong Kong hosts a crowded 7 million people. Among them, you will find a diverse party-loving crowd of businessmen, expats (and their grown-up kids), students, and a fair number of tourists.

This makes for an extremely dynamic, sophisticated and intense nightlife that I consider to be one of the best in Asia.

I wrote this detailed review of Hong Kong nightlife to make sure you'll have a great time partying in the city. If you have any questions or comments, please leave them at the end of the article and I'll do my best to answer you!

Hong Kong Nightlife Areas + Hotels
There are three main party districts with their distinct atmospheres: Lan Kwai Fong, Wan Chai, and SoHo.

Here's what you need to know about each of them:

→ Lan Kwai Fong
Lan Kwai Fong at night
The main party area, called Lan Kwai Fong (LKF), is located in the heart of the busy Central Business District. It is a tiny area with 3 streets that are full of bars: Lan Kwai Fong Street, Wyndham Street, and D'Aguilar Street. If you are new to Hong Kong and you don't know where to start your night out, just go there first and you'll easily meet people from all over the world.

LKF tends to draw a younger crowd of local and international students, young working people, and interns who depart straight from their megalomaniac bank towers after a hard day of work. It is also where you'll find the most tourists and backpackers.

The nightlife really starts at around 10pm: The bars pump up their music, turning the entire streets into parties where people smoke, drink and dance in the middle of the road. While you can party horizontally, going from one bar to another all night long, don’t forget to look up. There are a lot of venues on the upper floors of the buildings. Sometimes an elevator ride can lead you to a completely different and unexpected space.

Recommended hotels near Lan Kwai Fong nightlife:
⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐Landmark Mandarin Hotel (rated 9.3/10, US$550 per night) - One of the top 5 hotels in Hong Kong.
⭐⭐⭐⭐Ovolo Central (rated 8.6/10, US$280 per night) - Just 1-minute walking distance from the clubs.
⭐⭐⭐Homy Hotel Central (rated 8.1/10, US$82 per night) - Best value hotel near LKF nightlife.

→ Wan Chai
Side street in the red-light district of Wan Chai (Lockhart Street)
If LKF is light-hearted fun, Wan Chai is the darkness. Often referred to as the red light district of Hong Kong (especially because of the ever-popular hostess bars, bordellos and massage parlours on Lockhart Road), it has emerged in recent years as a great nascent party district.

Wednesdays in Wan Chai are midweek decadence where the trendy youth of Hong Kong comes to get wasted thanks to an abundance of cheap alcohol deals (as low as HKD20 per drink). Hidden within a labyrinth of boulevards, you can find a diversity of places – from classy rooftop bars to clubs more hedonistic than others.

The nightlife in Wan Chai is spread over a rather large area, but the most happening party streets are Sun Street, Star Street, Moon Street, and Ship Street. The prostitution area is a bit further away, mostly in Lockhart Street (where you can also find some great expat pubs such as Queen Victoria, Churchill's, TrafalgarDelaney's).

Recommended hotel near Wan Chai nightlife:
⭐⭐⭐⭐Burlington Hotel (rated 8.1/10, US$87 per night) - Good value for money, guest-friendly, located on Hennesy road (1 street away from the red light district on Lockhart street).

→ SoHo
Just a few minutes away by cab from LKF, SoHo district is a hipster sanctuary. In the daytime, the area is filled with small, niche art galleries and concept stores. During the night, you can find plenty of trendy live venues, cocktail bars, and comedy clubs. There is an innumerable amount of different places, so it is worth having a walk around to explore their diversity. You can start at Old Man's (named one of the 50 best bars in Asia), then walk along Staunton's Street, stopping in Little L.A.B. (craft cocktails) and ending up in Pontiac Bar (named one of the best bars in the World in 2019).

Note about getting around in Hong Kong at night:
Generally, once in Central, everything is within walking distance. The three main party districts are equally close together, but if you plan on traveling from LKF/SoHo to Wan Chai, you may require either public transport which runs until 1am or a taxi/Uber, that costs around $30-50 HKD. Night buses are also available throughout the night and are extremely punctual and frequent if you need to travel to another part of the island. 

Best Bars and Nightclubs in Hong Kong
Due to the fast pace of the city, specific bars and clubs have a quick turnaround rate. Strange concept bars aiming to become the next hot thing are constantly opening which makes the process of going out always unique and ephemeral.

At the moment, the current hotspots are the ones listed below:

(Note: Don't forget to bring your ID when going to clubs in Hong Kong. The bouncers may not let you inside if you don't show them proper identification.)

Dragon-I (Lan Kwai Fong)
Located one escalator ride from the main street of LKF, Dragon-I is an upper-class nightclub.

You are greeted by sexy hostesses on a wooden-floored terrace that smells like the inside of a Shanghai Tang store. Inside, the stone tables are encrusted with (fake) diamonds and above your head, chandeliers subtly glitter in the darkness.

It is a cool place to party with a group if you enjoy being surrounded by beautiful people. Entrance fee can be quite expensive for guys (up to HKD400 depending on the event). Bottle service starts at HKD5,000 of minimum spending. Hot dancers will entertain the guests several times during the night.

Dragon-I has hosted many celebrities in the past, both as DJs and clients (including Bruno Mars recently). It prides itself on being exclusive so you need to make sure you dress up if you want to enter.

Levels (Lan Kwai Fong)
Levels is one of the largest and most packed nightclubs on Lan Kwai Fong. The crowd is mostly local and very young (early 20s). Lots of groups but you can still enjoy it if you are alone (entrance around HKD400). Two rooms with different DJs (mostly commercial EDM).

Volar (Lan Kwai Fong)
This popular venue is where many clubbers will end their night after partying in Hong Kong. Volar is at its best after 2 or 3AM, when most of the other bars/clubs in LKF have closed. The crowd is young and international. Music is EDM/Techno/Hip-Hop. Some famous DJs are invited once in a while.

Oma (Lan Kwai Fong)
Techno is considered an alternative style in Hong Kong, especially compared to the mainstream pop that echoes through the streets of LKF. The small Oma club is trying to change that, bringing local and international DJs on Friday and Saturday (on the other days of the week, you have live bands).

The venue has an incredible sound setup, seeming enormous in proportion to its size. Also, it closes at 5am, significantly later than its counterparts. Ladies night is on Thursday with free drinks for girls.

If you like Oma, you may also want to check the LGBT-friendly Mihn Club (written 宀 Club) and Social Room.

On Wednesday, Devil’s Advocate is crowded with young people carrying stacks of 20$ bill. For this price, they can get one alcoholic drink. In the context of a pricey Hong Kong, it is a steal, even though they give you low-quality liquor that will give you the hangover of a lifetime on the next day (that's why I usually prefer sticking to drinking beer).

The bar is old and decrepit, and the music is mostly mainstream hits of the moment, yet the atmosphere is incredible. The place is usually packed both inside the club and outside on the street, where people are extremely friendly and talkative. The moment you get tired of Devil’s Advocate, you can cross the street to Carnegie’s which also has great deals on their drinks with equally-average music and bar decoration. However, in Carnegie, the tables have been built to handle standing and dancing which becomes the main attraction once the cheap alcohol has been ingested.
Carnegie's Bar in Wan Chai is one of the most popular expat bars in HK
Ophelia (Wan Chai)
Designed by Ashley Sutton (also the creator of hip bars in HK like Iron Fairies, J.Borowski, and Dragonfly), this hidden spot is not for the light-hearted and borders on performance art and hedonism.

To reach Ophelia, you must traverse an iconic lantern street that has been constructed to look like an old Venetian road, with paved floor and colorful colonial building facades.

The club resides on the second floor of the building. As the doors of the elevator open, you find yourself in a completely alternate reality. The walls are decorated with seemingly real foliage and from the ceiling hang bird cages, swings, and plants. Gently swinging are women dressed up as birds, who adorn the walls and merge in with the greenery. Ophelia is a good crystallization of the oddities that Hong Kong is capable of producing and certainly worth a stop for its sheer creativity.

Picada (Lan Kwai Fong)
For all those Latin-American lovers out there, Picada is the place to go. Hong Kong has an unexpected but thriving salsa community, with Picada as their sanctuary. Cooped up in a skyscraper, the restaurant/bar becomes a nightclub on weekends at around 11 PM: The music is turned up and the tables are moved aside to reveal a gold-trimmed dancefloor. Expect to hear various beats including Merengue, Bachata, Reggaeton, Kizomba, Tango, Samba and, of course, Salsa.

You can sip on their delicious cocktails while watching Hong Kongers twirl their partners gracefully to the dulcet tones of cumbia. Their Salsa Caliente Thursdays are a must-go. For HKD100, you partake in an evening of salsa classes, with a drink on the house which facilitates the learning process!

Must-Try Nightlife Experiences in Hong Kong

Hong Kong Jockey Club
For both a great festive environment and an unmissable local cultural attraction, the Hong Kong Jockey Club comes to life every Wednesday evening. Starting early at 7pm, there is a $10HKD fee to enter the ring and watch horse races until 10pm.

The horse track is enormous, endowed by the silhouette of skyscrapers in the background. While betting on horses is certainly part of the attraction, there is also live music concerts between races, craft beers, dancing and celebrating. On the bleachers, you can observe what seems to be the taxi drivers that zoom around Hong Kong during the day, deeply concentrated on their newspapers in order to bet on the right horse to score big.

The Hong Kong Jockey Club on Wednesday night is a unique event, but make sure to come early because, after the final race at around 9.30pm, the festivities are over. Generally, if the gamble has gone well, the partygoers will then shift to Wan Chai Wednesday to celebrate.

Drinking at the International Financial Centre (IFC)
As Hong Kong remains a pricey place to live in, and even pricier to go out in, students and locals have found hacks to still enjoy the natural beauty and ambiance without breaking the bank.

Carrying open cans of alcohol in public spaces is legal in Hong Kong. Many young adults will buy alcohol at a local 7/11 and consume it on the roof of the International Finance Centre – one of the most famous skyscrapers in the Hong Kong skyline. On the roof, there are benches, a garden and arguably the best view of the port. You can sit on the roof, bring a speaker and drink with your friends while enjoying a view of Kowloon’s light show on the other side of the port.

It’s cheap, economic and authentically Hong Kong.

Nightlife in Goa: Best Parties, Bars, Clubs and Festivals (2019)

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As the most liberal state in an otherwise conservative country, Goa is easily the best party destination in India.

Relatively small in size (Goa is only slightly larger than Hong-Kong or Luxembourg), it attracts millions of tourists every year with its beautiful beaches, a relaxed vibe, cheap booze and tons of crazy parties. There are also thousands of long term residents, including hippies who have been living there since the 1970s.

The following review will give you an overview of Goa nightlife. If you have any questions, please ask them in the comment section below.

Best Seasons to Party in Goa
Goa experiences unbearable heat and heavy rainfall from late April to September. This is the time when many foreign residents (and some businesses) pack their bags and leave for the milder climate of the Himalayas, in northern India.

October to March is a good time to visit Goa, especially the month of January when the best parties are organized. Unfortunately, it is also quite crowded then, and everything is more expensive. It is common for hotels to charge up to twice as much during this season.

It gets even worse during Christmas and New Year Eve. This is the peak season, and it can be complicated to find a decent hotel at a reasonable price.  Some restaurants will even have a different menu with hiked prices just for these few days. Taxis charge more, motorcycle rent increases, etc. Be aware of this when planning your trip.

To summarize:
April to September: Off-season with few parties, many closed businesses (including bars, clubs, etc), but inexpensive hotels.
October to March: High-season (best to enjoy the nightlife and the beach).

Party Areas in Goa + Hotels
Just to make things clear in case you didn't know it yet: Goa is NOT a city.

It is an Indian state split between two main areas, North and South Goa, each with their own characteristics:

Generally speaking, North Goa is more known for its party vibe while the South is considered more secluded, with its pristine beaches and chic boutique resorts.

Naturally, this Goa nightlife review will focus on North Goa, even though I will also mention a few South Goa clubs as well.

In North Goa, these are the most interesting options for your stay:

Vagator, Anjuna, and Morjim beaches are former hippie destinations which have now morphed into partygoer’s paradise (nowadays, mostly Indians, Russians, British, and Israelis). If you come to Goa mainly for the nightlife, you should choose a hotel in one of these three cities (see below for the most recommended ones).

Calangute and Baga beaches are more crowded, tacky, and noisy. Its residents are beach enthusiasts who come from India or from Russia/Europe on cheap holiday packages. There is an infamous nightlife area called Tito's Lane where you will find tourist bars like Tito's or Mambo's. Beware as there are can be some prostitutes there. In the past few years, some upscale Indian bars have opened near Baga as well, such as Owl and Las Olas.

→ Candolim beach is known for its exclusive hotels and peaceful environment. The nightlife is limited to hotel bars like the one in the Hyatt Centric.

Arambol beach, further north, is almost a 3-hour drive from central Goa. It is an up-and-coming destination, where hippies, digital nomads, and backpackers from all over the world stay for longer periods of time.

Personally, I like Anjuna as I enjoy its long beach, its tasty restaurants, and its numerous affordable hotel options. This is also where you have the best nightclubs and bars.

Here are a few recommended hotels to stay near Goa nightlife (from cheap to expensive):
Jungle by the Hostelcrowd (rated 8.9/10, US$6 per night for dormitory and US$25 for a private room) - On Vagator beach, great party hostel for the budget traveler.
⭐⭐⭐The Ivy Anjuna (rated 8.9/10, US$50 per night) - Very central, near the restaurants and shops, just 7 minutes to the beach
⭐⭐⭐⭐Larive Beach Resort Vagator (rated 8.1/10, US$80 per night) - On Vagator beach, this hotel often hosts great parties
⭐⭐⭐⭐Casa Anjuna (rated 8.1/10, US$80 per night) - Beautiful colonial-style garden with a relaxing garden
⭐⭐⭐Ozran Heights (rated 8.2/10, US$90 per night) - Comfy bungalows right on Vagator Beach, next to the Chronicle bar.

Best Nightclubs and Bars in Goa
Enjoying Goa nightlife is all about knowing the right events, parties, and festivals. A great club may be packed on a Wednesday afternoon, but empty on a Friday night for instance.

Therefore, it is crucial to get up-to-date information about the latest parties before heading out.

To help you, I recommend you to follow these groups and pages:

Goa Trance Parties: A list of all the trance parties and festival
Nightlife in Goa and Events in Goa: Weekly parties and events
Goa Freaks: Info about the underground party scene in Goa
What's Up Goa: A hip guide to what's happening in Goa

Otherwise, you can go to these clubs which are normally the busiest (check their Facebook page before going to make sure they are open, though).

Shiva Valley (Anjuna)
This simple beach shack on Anjuna beach is one of the most popular hangout spots in Goa, both during daytime and nighttime. In particular, Shiva Valley is known for its beach parties every Tuesday. Then, the bar is lit with neon artwork, and it welcomes top DJs spinning trance and psychedelic tracks. The party starts in the late afternoon and the audience often leaves with the sunrise.

Curlies (Anjuna)
Another beach shack, similar to Shiva Valley (and right next to it), where the best parties are held on Thursdays. It's also a good spot to have a beer during the day.

If you walk 10 minutes north, you will find Cafe Lilliput which has some good events during the high season. Also similar is UV bar/Plan B.

Club Cubana (Arpora)
If you need a change from your beach party routine, Club Cubana offers a memorable experience on top of Arpora hills. Hosted in a large building, this club boasts several bars and dancefloors with different styles on each level (mostly commercial: House, hip-hop, EDM). The place also features a serene outdoor area with a guarded swimming pool to relax under the stars.

Opened only during high season. Stag entries (single guys) are strictly prohibited. INR 3,000 entry for couples with unlimited drinks. Go early as it closes at midnight.

Hilltop (Vagator)
As its name suggests, this iconic venue is an actual open-air hilltop. It has been known since the 1970s to host some of the biggest parties in Goa, including music festivals like Sunburn (see below).

I recommend going there on Sunday afternoons. They will have several different DJs (local and international) playing mostly trance sets. It is a huge venue so it can often feel a bit empty, unfortunately.

Hilltop parties are subject to noise pollution norms and hence they shut at 10 pm unless they have special permission, which is usually for music fests, Christmas and New Year’s Eve.

Bora Bora (Morjim)
Morjim’s gem Bora Bora is the only bar in Goa that stays open 24/7. It's a good place to crash after a long night out and to order some food. They have nice music and a relaxed atmosphere. Good for meeting girls as well. Most customers are Russians (the owner of the bar is Russian as well).

Chronicle (Vagator)
A multi-level all-day beach club featuring a cool bar and restaurant. More upmarket than most other venues in Goa, it attracts an international crowd. Recommended for sunset drinks.

Leopard Valley (South Goa)
Leopard Valley is an offbeat venue in the southern part of Goa, not too far from Palolem. You need to go about 5 kilometers into the jungle in order to reach it. They have a big open-air party on Fridays that lasts until morning. The music is techno and trance and there are some shows like sexy fire dancers. A great experience but a bit more pricey than the usual Goa nightclub (INR700 entrance). Beware that it does not open every year (check their Facebook page for more information).

If you stay in South Goa near Palolem, there is another party that may interest you. Called Silent Noise, this is a place where music is played in your ears via headphones (a smart way to avoid the noise restrictions). There are several DJs playing at the same time, each a different set of music. The entrance is INR800.

Music Festivals and Parties
Goa is a popular destination for music festivals and regular parties in India. During high seasons, there is at least one happening every month. Three events that stand out from the crowd are:

With the distinction of being Asia’s largest music festival, Sunburn attracts artists like Sam Feldt, David Guetta, KYGO, Martin Garrix, and many others. It was also ranked as one of the top 10 music festivals in the world by CNN. This 3-day festival is spread across multiple stages with artists playing day and night. Sunburn was hosted in Goa until 2015 before shifting its venue to Pune. In 2019, the organizers have brought it back to Goa. It usually happens just before the New Year. Prices start at USD50 for one day pass.

Located in Riva Beach Resort, this is the largest reggae festival in India. It usually features up to 50 local and international artists, for an event that lasts 3 days. Prices start at USD30 for a day pass.

Note that the Riva Beach Resort has a weekly Reggae party at its pool area every Sunday as well. Click here for more information.
Riva's Sunday reggae party


Liquid Sky parties are organized by a group of foreigners who have been living in Goa for decades. They were among the first ones to introduce underground electronic music in Goa, initially from a beach shack in Arambol. Check their Facebook page for their next events, their parties are usually great!

Indian and Bollywood Clubs

SinQ is an upmarket Indian club with different daily events (the retro nights on Thursdays being the most popular). Nice cabanas near the poolside for those who want to chill. Forbidden for single guys, but you can enter if you accompany a couple (INR 2,000 for the couple, and INR 3,000 for the guy).

LPK - Love, Passion, and Karma - is a waterfront club on the Nerul river in Candolim. Surrounded by water on three sides, this place has an old heritage feel. Popular among the upmarket Indian tourists. It is known for cocktails, Goan Chicken Cafreal, and unlimited house brand drinks at a low price of Rs. 1000 (~$14).

Some other popular Indian and Bollywood nightclubs in Goa: Owl, Soho, and Hammerzz.

Goa Nightlife Tips

Places to avoid

→ Baga / Calangute
Unless you like to be on cramped beaches with endless EDM and Bollywood music blaring out of every beach shack, you should avoid visiting Baga or Calangute beaches. These beaches were, about a decade ago, the go-to destination. Over time, they have been polluted and crowded beyond imagination. Many tourist guides and blog posts still feature them, but the authors are yet to visit them in 2019.

→ Tito's / Mambos on Tito's Lane
You will find Tito's and Mambos on most “must visit” listicles online. These two bars are one of many that are located in Baga/Calangute, on Tito's Lane. They can be OK to visit once out of curiosity, but I doubt you will enjoy partying there. The entrance fee is a whopping INR2,700 for single males, for which you get a free flow of cheap alcohol. Poor food, poor music, poor atmosphere.

Cost of partying
The cost of partying in Goa can be divided into three categories:

One is the entry fee. This can vary from season to season ranging from Rs. 200 (~$3) to Rs. 1500 (~$22).

The second most important cost is the transport cost to and from the party place. Goa is one state in India where you cannot find Uber or similar cab services. Taxis in Goa charge an exorbitant amount of money. The best way to go is to rent-a-car if you have one sober driver to get you back. If not, it is wise to share a cab with other people in your hotel/hostel. 

The third is the cost of booze and food. For top party places, this ranges from Rs. 500 (~$7) to Rs. 2000 (~$28). Alcohol is cheap in Goa. A can of beer will cost you less than $1.5 in most places.

Safety
It is important to follow traffic rules for safety. Many tourists rent motorcycles to save money and end up in a hospital or caught by traffic police. Locals may encourage you to rent a motorcycle but beware. If you meet with an accident, it is going to cost you dearly (for this reason, make sure you have travel insurance before heading to India - personally, I use WorldNomads which costs about US2$ per day).

Another thing to be careful about is drugs. Pay attention so that no one is spiking your drink. Do not accept drugs from people you do not know. They might sell you fake drugs or worse, bad quality substances.

Drugs are illegal in India, including soft stuff like Marijuana. That being said, they are quite common in many nightclubs and bars. In recent years, the police have started a crackdown on drugs in Goa. They keep a tab on every popular party and will barricade the roads leading out of the venue. If suspected, you will be thoroughly checked and penalized. 

Prostitution is illegal in India too. There are places where you will find prostitutes offering their services but it is important to be cautious and stay away. Just like drugs, there is a crackdown on prostitution too. If you are suspected of inviting a prostitute to your guesthouse or hotel, the staff there can report you to the police.

Finally, I should mention that I was bitten by a wild dog once while riding a motorbike. There are quite many around and it can be annoying. Again, it is useful to have travel insurance for this kind of issue.

Kathmandu Nightlife: Best Bars and Nightclubs (2019)

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I was surprised to discover that Kathmandu has one of the best nightlife in South Asia.

The capital of Nepal, with a population of over 2,5M inhabitants, has a rather high number of nightclubs and bars, and a party culture which is much more liberal than in neighboring India.

The below review is a summary of everything I learned from my stay in Kathmandu. If you have any questions, do not hesitate to leave a comment below.

Kathmandu Party Areas + Hotels
Click on the map to enlarge
If you are interested in Kathmandu nightlife, you should choose a hotel in the Thamel district.

Thamel is the most popular tourist area in Kathmandu. It used to be the go-to spot for hippies and drug users back in the 70s. Nowadays, it is much more mainstream, attracting backpackers and travelers from all over the world. Most of them stay in cheap guesthouses and mid-range hotels. It is a colorful and exciting area, but it can be quite noisy and busy.

Within Thamel, the intersection between Chaksibari Marg street and Paryatan Marg street is the best location for partying. From there, on foot, you can easily reach dozens of cafés, restaurants, bars, and clubs. If you don't know where to start your night out in Kathmandu, just go there first.

The hotels I recommend near that spot are:

⭐⭐Kathmandu Merry Hotel (rated 8/10, US$15 per night) - Super cheap, clean and comfortable
⭐⭐⭐Milestone Hotel (rated 8.4/10, US$25 per night) - Brand new hotel in the center
⭐⭐⭐⭐Ambassador Garden Home (rated 8.7/10, US$35 per night) - Best value for money in this area

Durbarmarg
There is also some nightlife in Durbarmarg, a large avenue leading to the Royal Palace with luxury hotels, shops, and restaurants. It is more residential and less touristy. You may be able to find some upscale apartments there on Airbnb (up to US$45 off your first booking using my link).

For long term residents
If you are staying in Kathmandu for a longer period of time, I'd recommend upmarket neighborhoods like Lazimpat or Lalitpur. They are more laid-back yet they still have a bit of nightlife. Again, I recommend Airbnb instead of a hotel in those areas.

Kathmandu Nightlife Tips
Cost of partying in Kathmandu
The local currency is the Nepalese Rupee (Ns.) with 1$ ≈ Ns. 115.

The average cost of a night out in Kathmandu is around Ns. 5,000 (USD 45). For an entrance fee in a club, you can expect to pay between Ns. 500 and Ns. 2,000. For drinks, Ns. 3,000 should be enough to get you tipsy (around Ns. 300-600 per drink).

Typically, a foreign beer like Carlsberg or Tuborg costs around Ns. 400-500 whereas local beers like Gorkha, Nepal Ice, Everest, and Arna Beer are available for around Ns. 350-450.

Khukuri Rum, an authentic Nepali rum, is quite popular and cheap. A 750 ML bottle costs Ns. 2,000 in pubs.

Transport is inexpensive as you can go to most bars and clubs on foot (if you stay in Thamel).

Dress code:
It is generally relaxed, but all the higher-end clubs will require you to wear closed shoes and pants. Clubs and bars are rarely well-heated so you will probably need to wear a jacket during winter, even when inside.

When to party:
May to September is the busiest season for partying as this is when the weather is the warmest. The nightlife is also interesting just after Divali, usually in late October or early November.

Clubs are officially required to close at 12 PM, but the rule is not really enforced and you can actually party until morning in many venues. Friday and Saturday are the best busiest nights.

Drugs:
Kathmandu used to be considered as a heaven for marijuana lovers up until 1973. Before this date, it was legal to smoke weed or hashish, and hippies would flock from all over the world to enjoy this freedom. World-class marijuana was cultivated in Nepal, especially near the town of Pokhara.

Nowadays, the laws have become much more strict and prohibitive, yet you can still obtain marijuana easily. Street dealers sell it quite aggressively to tourists in Thamel but, unfortunately, it might not be the best stuff. As elsewhere, your best bet is to find it through a local friend.

Prostitution:
Prostitution, in spite of being illegal, is widely practiced in the Thamel area. If you just walk around, you will see some guys distributing massage parlors flyers or offering to hook you up with girls. There is also some online prostitution, especially on apps like Tinder, Badoo, or on the sugar baby website SeekingArrangement (high-class companions).

Meeting other travelers and expats:
I recommend checking the Facebook group Kathmandu Hang Out. You will find information about the latest parties and meetups with foreigners living in the city.

Best Nightclubs and Bars in Kathmandu
This is a list of the most happening bars and nightclubs in Kathmandu (if I forgot one, please mention it in the comment section below).

This is currently the poshest nightclub in Kathmandu, attracting mostly rich locals and a few foreigners. Great lighting (hydraulic chandelier going up and down, lasers, LCD panels) and a sound system of international standards. The venue is quite large (1,000 pax capacity), with a square bar in the center surrounded by elevated VIP areas. A rock band plays until 23.30, followed by a DJ (mostly EDM). A few famous international artists have played there (Asap Tyy, Quintino, etc). The entrance fee is high at Ns. 2,500 (USD 20) and a beer will cost a whopping Ns. 800-1,000 (USD 7-9).

The same group also owns and operates Karma and Reload. Both attract a hip crowd of locals and foreigners.
Reload
A similar club is Deja Vu but it is currently closed for renovation.

Senate Club
An eclectic venue with various events each day of the week, from techno nights to live Nepali rock. Cheaper than Lord of the Drinks (and also less pretentious), it is a good place to party with locals or travelers without breaking the bank. Central location on Thamel.

There are several clubs that are quite similar to Senate in terms of crowd, price, and music: Turtle Club, Playboy, Fire Club, or Fahrenheit.
Playboy Club
Fahrenheit Club
Probably the best rock bar in Kathmandu. They have local (or international/Indian) bands daily until 12 PM. Music can be soft rock, pop, metal, etc depending on who's playing. They play mostly covers of famous songs. Popular with tourists and older locals. The entrance fee is Ns. 500 during weekends with one free drink.

Other good live music bars (with different music): Reggae Bar and Jazz Upstairs.

Bar Bar Black Sip
One of my favorite bars in Thamel, along with Dancing Yak. It is rather intimate, with a regular live band and decent food. Cocktails are normally good (though it doesn't seem they have a standard).

Similar bar: Ozzie Lounge

This "traditional" Irish pub is located in Lazimpat, about 15 minutes from Thamel. A bit on the pricey side, and rather quaint, it is nonetheless a nice venue to get a drink while listening to live music. Average pub fare. Most customers are Nepalese.

This simple club is interesting if you are hoping to meet Nepali girls. While most clients are guys, you generally have a few unattached ladies on the dancefloor (not sure if they are working for the club or not). The music and drinks are similar to other places.

Sam’s Bar
This discreet bar on the second floor of a souvenir shop is one of the oldest in Kathmandu. Nothing special except that it is quite cheap. Popular with budget travelers, locals, and long-term foreign residents. They have live music on selected nights.

Similar bar: Tom and Jerry

This is a smaller club with mostly underground or non-commercial music (trance, techno, or rock bands). It only opens on Friday and Saturday. The entrance fee is usually around Ns. 1,000 with a drink. On the same location, you also have Calm Restaurant and Bar.

Seoul Nightlife: Where to Party in Seoul?

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Note: This Seoul nightlife review was written by Marc, an Italian expatriate who has lived over 8 years in the city.

For a foreigner, Seoul nightlife is easy to map. There are three main party areas where you can go out after dark:
- Itaewon (foreigner area)
- Gangnam (upscale area)
- Hongdae (student area)

Let's review each of them in details:

Seoul Nightlife Areas + Hotels

Itaewon
Itaewon nightlife map (click on it to open it - best viewed on laptop)
Recommended hotels near Itaewon nightlife:
Hamilton Hotel (US$105 per night)
Imperial Palace Boutique Hotel (US$110 per night) - Same complex as Made Club
Historically, the area near Itaewon metro station was the first in Seoul where foreigners (mostly U.S. military) would go to drink and party. It has remained popular until today, especially among tourists, English teachers, soldiers, businessmen, expats, and diplomats.

Once a gritty neighborhood, it has changed a lot over the past 10 years. While it isn't particularly pretty, it has become much more trendy with dozens of upscale shops, hipster coffee shops, and cool bars.

It is considered the most foreigner-friendly area in Seoul. In particular, there are many Western-owned pubs, such as Wolfhound Pub (Irish), Route 66 (American), Rocky Mountain (Canadian), Fat Albert (Canadian), and Sam Ryan's Sports Pub (Canadian-Australian). Coincidentally, due to the presence of Seoul's Central Mosque nearby, Itaewon also has a high number of migrant workers from Muslim countries (especially from Bangladesh, Pakistan, Malaysia, Indonesia).

Despite this, most people you'll encounter in Itaewon are Koreans (at least 80%). Among them, a few may be interested in chatting with foreigners to improve their English or to make new friends.

The busiest nights in Itaewon are from Thursdays to Saturdays. On weekdays, it is not as happening, but still, it is usually more crowded than anywhere else in the city.

If you can afford to spend some money, I'd recommend starting your night out in the fancy Korean BBQ restaurant Maple Tree House (if you are on a budget, don't worry as you also have much cheaper options, including some kebab joints).

After eating, you can crawl from bar to bars easily as they are all within walking distance to each other (if you are alone, you may want to join a pub crawl like Thirsty Thursdays). Another good thing about Itaewon is that clubs will rarely refuse foreigners (unfortunately, this can be quite common in Gangnam).

Overview of clubs and bars in Itaewon
Many of the popular venues (like GlamProst, Boombar, or the Fountain) are located on the road Itaewon-ro 27-ga-gil, just behind Hamilton Hotel (Exit 1 of Itaewon Station). You may also want to check Soul Train and the Gold Bar - which are low-key but fun places. Club Made attracts an almost 100% Korean crowd, including some really pretty girls.
Club Made in Itaewon
On the opposite side of the Hamilton hotel (exit 3 and 4 of Itaewon Station), there are other famous spots, such as Bulldog, great for salsa on Saturday, Casa Corona, a newly renovated place which is quite trendy, U.N. Club (popular with the black community), and Soap (young crowd).

In the past few years, many alternative clubs have opened in Itaewon. They attract a local and international crowd who enjoys techno, deep house, trance, dubstep, and any kind of non-commercial music. The current hotspots are Cakeshop, PistilFaustConcrete Bar, and Volnost.

You can end the night out at one of the local Noraebang (there is a famous one close to Exit 4), the Korean-style karaoke rooms.

Gay nightlife
There are also many gay clubs and bars in Itaewon, especially on street 12 Usadan-ro 12-gil (also known as Homo Hill). For instance, Queen, HIM by pulse, and Soho. A bit further away, you can check the well-known Q-bar, which organizes fun shows on the weekend (even if you are not gay, there are many straight people who go there as well).

Prostitution scene
Finally, Itaewon is also infamous for its prostitution scene, especially in the so-called "hooker hill" (alley Usadan-ro 14-gil) where you may be surprised to find hostess bars, karaokes and naughty massage parlors.

Behind Itaewon, on the Namsam hill, the Grand Hyatt Seoul is popular with businessmen, mainly because of its bar called J.J. Mahoney. It is a fun venue with live music and an outside pool in the summer. There are always some freelance prostitutes hanging out around the bar as well.

Gangnam
Gangnam nightlife map (click on it to open it - best viewed on laptop)
Recommended hotels near Gangnam nightlife:
- Glad Live Gangnam (US$85 per night)
- Aiden by Best Western (US$100 per night)
- Hotel Cappuccino (US$102 per night)
Gangnam is the fancy area of Seoul.

Just 40 years ago, it mainly consisted of rice fields, but now it is so expensive than even a small flat can cost you millions of dollars. In Gangnam, the wards Cheongdam and Apgujeong are the most happening.

During weekdays, fewer people are going out in Gangnam compared with Itaewon, but it is similarly popular on weekends. 

New trendy bars open all the time in Gangnam. It is part of the "pali pali" culture (fast-fast, or "hurry up"), an essential concept in Korea: Customers are always looking for something new, meaning businesses often close, then re-open under a different name with a slightly improved concept.

Personally, I don't really enjoy partying in Gangnam as a foreigner for three main reasons:
- The first one is that many clubs can be racist and may deny entry to non-Korean speakers. They may also refuse to let you in if you don't look rich enough or if you are too old (over 30).
- The second one is that the area is more spread out, so it is not as easy as in Itaewon to go from one place to the other.
- The third one is that it can be really expensive to party there. Drinks may cost up to three times as much as in the cheaper venues in Seoul, and you may be requested to book a table in some clubs (with a minimum spend of around US$300).

One of the most exclusive and popular venues in Gangnam is Octagon, which is your typical superclub with two rooms (commercial EDM and Hip-Hop), a select crowd with designer clothes, and plenty of VIP corners.
Sexy bar hostess in Octagon
Another trendy venue is Jay & Jason. This small hip-hop lounge is accessible only if you book a table. Beautiful crowd, with very few foreigners.

Gangnam is also known for its cocktails bars and speakeasies, some of which are considered among the best in Asia. You can check Alice Cheongdam, Le Chamber, or Vault +82.

Hongdae
Hongdae nightlife map (click to open - best viewed on laptop)
Recommended hotels near Hongdae nightlife:
Hotel The-Ore (US$90 per night)
L7 Hongdae by LOTTE (US$150 per night)
Hongdae is the preferred Seoul nightlife area for students (Hongdae is the Korean abbreviation for Hongik University). While the crowd is younger than elsewhere, it is also popular with older people, especially hipsters and some foreigners.

To party in Hongdae, you can go first to the busy exit 9 of Hongik University Station. From there, you can then walk to Eoulmadang-ro street up to Jandari-ro street. Many bars and clubs are located in that area, such as Mike's Cabin (most popular with foreigners), Aura (hip-hop), Made (EDM), FF (Live music), Thursday Party (crowded, part of a chain), Henz (trap music), and Vurt (techno).
Girls clubbing in Made Hongdae
A singular place in Hongdae is the Retrogame bar, co-founded by a Swedish, the perfect mix between videogames, alcohol, and fun!

Other Interesting Areas in Seoul:
If you stay in Seoul for more than a few days, you should also check these three areas:

- Eujiiro (close to Euljiro 3 metro station), a nice neighborhood with many local restaurants and bars, including trendy speakeasies (especially the one called “After Jerk Off”).

- Sajik-dong (Gyeongbokgung Exit 7) also has a few nice upscale bars, such as Cobbler (ask for a smoky cocktail!)

- Ikseon-dong is situated across the touristic neighborhood of Insa-dong. It has chic shops and restaurants. The perfect place for a walk in the afternoon or to grab something to eat in the evening.

Seoul Nightlife Tips:
Bikini nights in Move Club Itaewon
Here are a few things to know before going out in Seoul:

Bring your ID
Your passport or ID will be asked before you enter a club, especially if you look under 19 (the legal age for drinking alcohol in Korea).

Dress Code
Of course, it varies depending on the club/bar you want to go to. As a general rule, though, Koreans pay a lot of attention to their own appearance (and that of others). In any upmarket venue, especially in Gangnam, you will need to dress to impress. For guys, this means that, at the least, you need to wear closed shoes, a shirt, and a pair of pants. For girls, high heels and a skirt are recommended.

Unfortunately, racism is a reality in Korea. If you are dark-skinned, you should try to dress even nicer if you want to avoid being denied entry at a nightclub.

Cost of Partying
Even though Korea is a developed country, I didn't find it so expensive to enjoy Seoul's nightlife.

Typically, you will need to pay between US$10 and US$20 to enter a club (up to US$30 for the best ones like Octagon). This includes your first drink. Then, you can drink Soju for around US$4-5, a bottle of beer for around US$6-8, and a cocktail for US$9-12. A night out will normally cost you less than US$100.

However, if you want to get into the best clubs, the bill will rise sharply as you may be required to book a table. In that case, you'll probably end spending around US$200 for your night.

How to Watch Netflix in Indonesia? Unblock Netflix.

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How to Unblock Netflix in Indonesia:
If you don't have the time to read the whole article, know that you can simply unblock Netflix in Indonesia using a VPN like VyrprVPN (US$2.50/month). Once the VPN is installed, you must select a US server (New York, Los Angeles, etc), and connect to it through the IKEv2 256-bit encryption protocol.

Confused? Don't worry, I explain everything below:

Netflix is not blocked by the Indonesian government, but it is blocked by Telkom (IndiHome), a government-owned company and one of the largest Internet Service Providers (ISP) in the country.

The reason behind the blocking is simply that they have shares in Netflix's Asian competitor, iFlix and therefore they want to force you to subscribe to their own service.

If you haven't chosen your internet service provider yet, try to avoid Telkom, and choose instead a company like First Media, Indosat or Biznet.

Unfortunately, some people cannot choose their providers due to their building management or owner restrictions. If you are in Indonesia only for a short time, on business or on holiday, you may also not be at liberty to avoid Telkom.

If you are stuck with IndiHome and your Netflix account refuses to connect, don't worry as there is an easy solution!

To unblock Netflix, all you need to do is to subscribe to a VPN. It isn't free, but still very cheap (under 2$ per month with PureVPN) and extremely useful if you also care about your privacy online. Read about the benefits of using a VPN here: Best VPNs for Indonesia.

PureVPN is the cheapest, but I suggest VyprVPN as I can guarantee it works well to unblock Netflix in Indonesia. I've been using it for over 2 years and never had any issues. I need to reconnect from time to time or to change servers, but it doesn't really bother me.

VyprVPN has a 30-day money-back guarantee so if you are on a holiday in Bali or elsewhere in Indonesia, you can basically get the VPN for free for the duration of your trip (just don't forget to cancel your subscription). That said, you will realize it's so helpful to have one that I'm sure you will prefer keeping it.

To make Netflix work perfectly in Indonesia, you need to modify the settings of the VPN a little bit. Let me show you below how to install it properly.

First Step:
You need to subscribe to VyprVPN. You have a 3-day free trial using this link (which also gives you 3 months free on annual accounts).

The price is reasonable, starting at $2.50/month if you subscribe to a two-year plan. You can pay by Credit Card (Visa, Mastercard, Amex), Paypal and Alipay.

Second Step:
Once you have subscribed, you can login to your account and download the software VyprVPN on your desired device:

Third Step:
Once you have downloaded the software or the app, open it on your device and login with your VyprVPN credentials. They were sent to your email at the time of your subscription.

Fourth Step:
Once logged in, go to VyprVPN Preferences (or Customize), and select Protocol:
Make sure you select either IKEv2 256-bit encryption or Chameleon whenever you want to unblock Netflix in Indonesia. The rest of the time, you can select OpenVPN only.

Fifth Step:
On the main interface, change your location to any of the servers in the US. Again, if you are not watching Netflix, it is better to select a server in Indonesia or Asia as they will be faster.

Troubleshooting:
- You should now be able to watch Netflix US, just as if you were in your home country. The connection will sometimes drop, so you can solve this problem by simply ticking the button "automatically reconnect" in VyprVPN --> Preferences --> Connection
- Another problem you could be facing is that a server might get temporarily blocked by Netflix. In that case, just try another server. For instance, choose Miami instead of Chicago.

Conclusion: About Watching Netflix in Indonesia
Even if your ISP is not blocking Netflix, it can be useful to have a VPN as it will allow you to bypass regional restrictions and see more TV shows and movies.

Do you know any other VPN that works well to unblock Netflix in Indonesia? If yes, please don't hesitate to leave a comment below.

Finding a Sugar Baby or a Sugar Daddy in Singapore

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"Sugar dating" is booming in Singapore, both among men and women.

The country is currently the 3rd richest in the world per capita, meaning there are plenty of wealthy guys who can afford to support a girl and/or to buy her expensive gifts.

At the same time, Singaporean girls are famously materialistic and many are actively looking for a partner with deep pockets. They may not care if a guy is handsome or ugly, but they will certainly want to know his job, his position or his income before considering going on a date with him.

Singapore is also home to tens of thousands of foreign girls, especially from nearby Southeast Asian countries like the Philippines, Indonesia or Thailand. For many of them, dating a wealthy foreigner can be a life-changing situation and the promise of a better future back home.

This combination of rich guys + money-oriented girls has made Singapore a fertile ground for sugar dating to develop. It's no surprise that the founder of the website SeekingArrangement is Singaporean.

If you are living or visiting the city-state, this article will tell you everything you should know about sugar dating here: How it works, how much it costs, and how to find the perfect sugar baby or a sugar daddy for you.

What is Sugar Dating?
Sugar dating is a relationship between a rich guy (a sugar daddy) and a younger girl (a sugar baby) in which money or gifts are involved. The arrangement is generally agreed upon before the relationship starts and it can take many forms:

The sugar daddy may help his sugar baby to pay for her studies or her rent. He may also provide her with a monthly allowance. Sometimes, the girls will prefer lavish gifts, exotic trips and/or fancy dinners. Generally speaking, if she can brag about it on Instagram, then it can be part of the arrangement.

In some cases, the girl may also expect her sugar daddy to provide some kind of mentorship. She may want to benefit from his experience to improve herself and to learn new skills. For example, he can teach her about wines, about golfing or about career choices. If you are able to make her benefit from your professional network, she will certainly appreciate it too.

Is Sugar Dating a form of prostitution?
Personally, I don't consider that a sugar baby is a prostitute. Even though she likes and cares about money, she still needs to be seduced and to feel a connection before agreeing to sex. As many of them write on their profiles: "Chemistry is a must!". They are often materialistic, of course, but being superficial or shallow doesn't make you a prostitute.

Best websites to meet a Sugar Baby in Singapore
There are the 4 best ways to meet a sugar baby in Singapore:

Universe Club: Japanese Girls in Singapore (Sponsored)
The Japanese dating club Universe has just opened a branch in Singapore so it's relevant to include it here.

This company, the largest of the kind in Japan, allows you to meet smart, beautiful and open-minded Japanese girls who are interested in dating foreigners. Currently, they have over 8,000 girls to choose from, most of whom can speak English and are willing to travel to Singapore.

To meet them, first, you must become a member (starting 250USD per year). At this point, you will be allowed to browse the girls' profiles and to select the ones you want to meet. Each time you meet a girl, you must pay a one-time fee (starting 180USD).

It is not a prostitution site, but the girls are money-oriented and they are receptive to being spoiled.

For more information, I have explained the whole system in detail in this article: How to meet a Japanese girl?

Currently the most famous sugar baby website in the world, it boasts over 3,000 profiles in Singapore. Most of them are Filipinas and Indonesians, but there are many Singaporean girls too.

You can create an account for free. Then, if you want to message someone, you will need to become a premium member (20$ per month).

Girls on Seeking Arrangement are quite diverse. Some are prostitutes, and some are not even looking for money (they just want to meet foreign guys). It's actually pretty fun to look at the site and to read the profiles.

Sugarbook
This website, based in Malaysia, has been growing in Southeast Asia after a scandal broke surrounding a party it sponsored during the Singapore F1 Grand Prix in 2018.

It doesn't have as many members as Seeking Arrangement, but it is an alternative that's worth trying. The premium version is quite expensive, though, at 60$ per month. It allows you to hide your online status, to search for specific profiles and to send an unlimited number of messages.

Tinder is a generalist dating app where most people are looking for relationships or hook-ups. That said, if you swipe profiles for a while, you will see a few sugar babies in it. As a guy, you could also write in your profile that you are looking for an "arrangement".

The obvious advantage of Tinder is that it's free, but then if you can't afford to pay for an app, are you sure you can finance the lifestyle of a sugar baby?

Online Dating Sites & Apps In Indonesia (2020)

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I once wrote a review about dating Indonesian girls and where to meet them. You can still read it here: Where to meet Indonesian girls? Most of the information on the review is still valid, but it certainly needs an update on the world of online dating through websites or social apps such as Badoo, Indonesian Cupid, Tinder, WeChat, Skout, Beetalk, etc.

New Article: 10 Best Countries in Asia to Meet Girls and 15 Best Dating Apps and Websites in Asia.

If you are looking for a great girl in Jakarta, online dating is by far your best chance. 90% of the girls there are looking for a stable relationship. Another 9% is looking for money. And maybe less than 1 percent is looking for a one night stand (not the hottest girls usually).

The fact that they are looking for a stable relationship does not mean they want to get married straight away. It means they want to feel a long-term relationship is possible. For this reason, it may be more difficult for you to find a date if you are not staying in Indonesia and if you do not speak Indonesian.

Depending on which website or which app you use, you can pretty much chat with any type of woman you could think of: Students, employees, executives, single moms, etc from any ethnicity or religion. There is such a diversity that it would be hard to generalize. To give you a better understanding, I will describe the specificities of each dating app or website below:

Bumble: To find the most educated girls
Bumble has been called the "feminist" dating app because girls have to message guys first (They have 24 hours to do so).

It is currently my favorite app in Jakarta because, even though it doesn't have thousands of profiles like Tinder, most girls using it are educated and they have good jobs. There are also many foreign girls using it, especially in Bali.

Pros:
➝ Smart and educated girls
➝ High proportion of foreign girls (especially in Bali)
➝ No need to message the girls first (great feature for those who hate having to make the first move)
➝ There is a video call feature within the app

Cons:
➝ Only a mobile app so you have to type your messages on your mobile
➝ Not more than a couple hundred profiles in Jakarta, many of which are already on Tinder

IndonesianCupid.com: For guys who are just visiting Indonesia

Indonesia Cupid is a more traditional dating website that is part of a large network. Its sister websites include FilipinoCupid, Muslima (for dating Muslim girls), Thai Cupid, Vietnam Cupid, etc. It is an excellent site for those who are not in Indonesia but who are interested in chatting with local girls.

Most Indonesian girls on IndonesianCupid are looking to meet foreigners, even if they are not living in Indonesia. Because of this, they won't turn you down if you say you are currently in the US, in Europe or in Australia.

Girls on IndonesianCupid are mostly from the middle class. Typically, you'll chat with employees, teachers, nurses, etc.

Since it is a website and not a mobile phone app, I find it much easier to write messages or browse profiles compared to Bumble. Even if you use it for a month or two, it is still easy to see which girls are online among those you've chatted with before.

You can register here: Sign-Up to Indonesian Cupid for Free. I recommend you to update to the premium version though (only 25$ per month) as it will allow you to send an unlimited number of messages. It will also give you the edge compared to the other guys in terms of visibility.

Pros:
➝ The best dating site in Indonesia if you are a tourist. Ideal for arranging dates prior to visiting the country. Girls won't mind if you are not living in Indonesia and if you are older than them.
➝ Between 500-1000 Indonesian girls online at any time, but thousands more who were active in the past week or month (you have filters to do that).
➝ Possibility to look for girls in other countries (Thailand, Philippines, etc)
➝ Good website interface, easy to use and fast.
➝ Fast chatting application
➝ Mostly serious girls who are interested in relationships
➝ Detailed profiles

Cons:
➝ The free version is too restricted (not a problem if you can afford 25$)
➝ No mobile app
➝ Many girls have limited English proficiency (especially outside Jakarta)

Tinder: For younger guys living in Jakarta
Tinder used to be the best dating app in Indonesia, but this is no longer the case. There are so many things I hate about it now that I wouldn't know where to start.

The biggest misconception about Tinder is that it is a free app. While this is technically true, in fact, its whole business model revolves around making you pay as much as possible.

One of the ways they can do that is with their "Boost" feature:
A "boost" allows you to be the top profile in an area for 30 minutes
A boost costs around US$4 and it can be addictive. You will get more matches at first, but as soon as you stop, you will get nothing. So you'll keep boosting your profile, again and again, matching with girls who are often not really interested to chat.

If you don't use any boost from the start, your profile will only be shown to usually less-attractive girls who swipe right/left a lot (because first, they will see hundreds of guys who boosted their profiles).

Pros:
➝ You can "like" (swipe right) up to 50 profiles per day for free
➝ Easy to get several matches every day (but they won't meet you if you are a tourist)
➝ Thousands of Indonesian girls are using it

Cons:
➝ Too many girls just looking for attention (or who are advertising their Instagram account)
➝ You cannot see which girls are online
➝ You cannot chat with a girl if you haven't matched with her already
➝ You cannot like more than 50 girls per day (or you must pay)
➝ You can only see girls around you (unless you pay). If you stay abroad, this means you cannot chat with any girl in Indonesia before you arrive.

Read my article: 10 Reasons You Are Failing at Tinder

Badoo: For guys who can speak Indonesian
Badoo used to be the best dating website in Indonesia but it is clearly not as popular as it used to be. It still has a large number of users though: I checked on 15 December 2016 at 7pm and there were 522 women online in Jakarta (vs 537 on Indonesian Cupid). They also have a mobile app (called "Hot or Not"). 

Badoo attracts 99,9% of Indonesian girls, from all backgrounds. You can filter girls by age, location, status, body type, etc. More than half the girls can speak English and many are interested in meeting foreigners. Online prostitution on Badoo is, unfortunately, a problem. Many "girls" on Badoo are in fact pimp looking for clients.

Pros:
➝ Lots of girls online
➝ Fun, colorful website interface with large photos (but also more slow to load)
➝ Both a website and an app with geo-localization
➝ You can send messages to 5 girls per day for free and you "like" as many as you want
➝ Cheaper than other websites

Cons:
➝ Privacy concern (they sent advertising emails to all my contact on my behalf saying I was inviting them to join Badoo)
➝ Many, many prostitutes and fake accounts
➝ Many girls can't speak English well
➝ Because it is cheaper, there are more guys on Badoo. This means it is harder to get girls' attention and your messages may be ignored. You can get seen/read before other guys but you need to pay extra money (even if you are already a premium user).

SeekingArrangement: For rich guys who want to easily date younger Indonesian girls
This dating site is quite unique and controversial. All girls are considered "sugar babies" who are willing to go on a date in exchange for gifts, money, travels or dinners. All guys are "sugar daddies" (not necessarily old) who are willing to sponsor the girls.

I met a few Indonesian girls, all students, who were using it. They told me the thing they liked the most was free travels so they could flood their Instagram accounts with pictures.

This site is good for guys who want to have a younger and beautiful mistress in Asia. Since money is involved, it is also not hard for a wealthy guy to find the perfect match.

Pros:
➝ Much more girls than guys so you are guaranteed to meet someone
➝ Many upper-class and classy girls
➝ Girls are easy to talk to, friendly, and they will often accept going on a date
➝ Straight-forward

Cons:
➝ A bit expensive. It is probably cheaper to try Indonesian Cupid first.
➝ There are some real sugar babies looking for chemistry, but also some prostitutes

Instagram: For guys who have an interesting life
Yes, Instagram can be considered a dating website in Indonesia. I know some guys who've met dozens of girls using it.

Of course, you need to create an Instagram account and to upload interesting pictures regularly. If you are an expat who visits nice restaurants and hotels, it shouldn't be too hard to add at least a great photo every two days.

You can then follow some Instagram accounts of girls you like and write comments on their pictures.

Pros:
➝ Free
➝ There are more girls on Instagram than on any other dating websites (especially in Indonesia)
➝ You can search for girls who have special interests using the location or tags (for instance, if you want to find a girl who went to the Djakarta Warehouse Festival, you can search the tag "DWP 2016").
➝ It is easy to find a topic to start a conversation (just comment a photo)

Cons:
➝ You need to create and maintain an interesting Instagram account
➝ Many girls are not single or not actively looking for a boyfriend
➝ Time consuming

Skout (Mobile app and dating site)
Skout is similar to Badoo but it does not have as many girls online. The ads are quite annoying so I didn't like using it.

WeChat (Lots of prostitutes)
WeChat has a "look around" feature which allows you to add girls located within a few kilometers from you. If they accept your invitation, you can start chatting with them.

Many ladyboys and prostitutes use that feature so it can be quite annoying if this is not what you are looking for. You will also probably receive a lot of invitations from other guys. Girls using this feature do not always speak English very well. It is popular with the Chinese community but your chances of getting a reply is low unless you speak Chinese.

Pros:
➝ Free
➝ Location based

Cons:
➝ I don't think you can meet a normal girl using it.

Beetalk(Only if you speak Indonesian)
Beetalk users are mostly Indonesian and young. It has a "look around" feature as well which is quite invasive as it tells you the exact position of the people around you. If you use it in popular malls like Grand Indonesia or Central Park, it will probably tell you a list of persons within a very close range, sometimes a few meters only.

Few girls using Beetalk speak good English so it is more appropriate for those with a basic knowledge of Indonesian. It is a good app but not the most effective for foreigners.

Pros:
➝ Free
➝ Location-based
➝ No competition from other Westerners

Cons:
➝ Very few girls who can speak English
➝ Not many replies from girls
➝ A lot of prostitutes

Tagged / Hi5 (Mobile app and website)
Tagged and Hi5 are the same service since they merged in 2011. It used to be one of the most popular social networks in Indonesia but it is struggling now. It is still a relatively interesting website to try as the number of Indonesian users is quite large. I would say that girls on Tagged are usually a bit older: They made their Hi5 account 10 years ago and they haven't closed it yet.

Adult Friend Finder
This is a paying hook-up website popular with swingers and those looking for one-night stands. I never used it but a friend of mine did and he met several open-minded couples. He also managed to meet a few single girls but it is rarer.

Note that the website is currently blocked by the government so you'll need to download a VPN to access it. I've written an article here Best VPN in Indonesia to help you with it.

Pros:
➝ If you are not looking for dating but for sex, this is the best website to use
➝ Number 1 hooking website in the World

Cons:
➝ 90% guys and 10% girls so you need to make a really neat profile to succeed. Being handsome would help.
➝ You won't get very far with the Free Version so you'll need to buy a premium membership
➝ Blocked in Indonesia: You must use a VPN to access it freely.

Paktor (Works best if you are young, rich and Asian-Chinese)

Paktor is one of the happening apps among younger Indonesians and particularly Indo-Chinese. Originally from Singapore, it is quite similar to Tinder with a few additional features.

Pros:
➝ You know the exact distance between you and another user
➝ A lot of interesting profiles (upper-class girls, students)
➝ Fun interface
➝ You can hide some Facebook friends to find you

Cons:
➝ The free version sucks
➝ If you are an older guy, you will have a relatively low rate of success

Conclusion
All these dating apps and websites are free but you have to pay if you want to get some VIP features. For instance, becoming a paid member will generally entitle you to send more messages, to see who clicked on your profile or to be seen first by girls.

There are probably some scammers too so you should naturally always make sure the person you are talking to is real. I would recommend asking for the girl's facebook or skype.

There are other services that I haven't tried but they might work well. If you have used one of the followings to find a date in Jakarta, it would be nice if you could write a comment about it below:

OK Cupid: Popular dating website (same group with Match.com and Tinder) with a few hundred girls in Indonesia

Happn: This app will tell you if you've crossed paths with girls during your day. It works well, but almost all girls there are already on Tinder/IndonesianCupid. It's fun to have, though.

Zoosk: One of the most popular dating apps in the world but I read some negative reviews about their privacy policy so I did not want to try it.

Ask.fm: Very popular social media in Indonesia, mostly with the younger crowd. It is not a real dating website but it is used as such by many Indonesians to make friends or get a date.

Wavoo is an Indonesian dating app that just started. It does not have a very large database of users at the moment.

Setipe is an Indonesian dating website that could be promising but it is still new and I encountered some problems to register.

Photo Credit: The photos are from Kucluk Oye.

10 Best Things to Do In Jakarta

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Many tourists hate Jakarta because they visit it the wrong way. They check the things to do in a guidebook or on the internet, and then try to do as many as possible in a short time.

Since they are not familiar with the city, they get stuck for hours in traffic, walk in the heat from one sight to the other, and spend more time bargaining than actually talking with Indonesians.

I am not saying that Jakarta is perfect, but if you know what to do, you can definitely have a good time.

Below is my list of the 10 most recommended things to do in Jakarta, starting from the best. An alternative title for the article could probably have been "How Not To Hate Jakarta". Your suggestions are welcome, please just write a comment at the end.

You can also read Is Jakarta worth visiting? for more information.

1) The best thing to do in Jakarta is to date a local (at least for guys)
Let's be honest here. Would Jakarta be as interesting for expats as it is today without Indonesian girls? Certainly not.

Dating local girls is the main activity of most guys I know who live here, and even for those who already have a Western wife. It is a fascinating introduction to Indonesian culture and the best way to learn the language. Leaving Indonesia without this experience is a bit like leaving Italia without eating pizza.

As a traveler, an easy way to get a date is to use online dating apps like Tinder. I wrote an article with the best services you can use: Online Dating Apps and Sites in Indonesia. Many girls in Jakarta will be suspicious about your intentions if you are a tourist though. If online dating does not work, you can read more advice in How to Meet Girls in Jakarta.

2) The second best thing to do in Jakarta is to party
The nightlife is one of the few areas where Jakarta can compete with Bangkok or Singapore. If you go to X2 on a Saturday night, you have at least 200 tourists. I don't think there are as many visiting the National Monument (Monas) over the whole weekend.

Clubs in Jakarta are not perfect but they are fun. Foreigners get a special treatment as long as they dress well and, unlike in Europe, you stand a chance with girls.

My whole website is about Jakarta nightlife. If you are not familiar with it already, start with Best Nightclubs 2016, Jakarta Nightlife 2015 and Jakarta Nightlife Guide.

3) The third best is to eat Indonesian food
I advise you to do the same when you visit Jakarta. You can go to Sabang street in Central Jakarta or Mangga Besar street in Kota (for more ideas, read Street Food in Jakarta) and choose one of the crowded food stalls. The prices are low: A dish without meat usually costs around Rp10,000, a dish with chicken or fish about Rp20,000 and a dish with beef or lamb between Rp30,000 and Rp50,000.

Don't make the mistake of only trying Nasi Goreng as you'll miss hundreds of delicious specialties. My personal favorites are Gudeg (cooked jackfruit), Ayam Gulai (chicken with Indonesian curry), Beef Rendang (slow-cooked beef with spices), Bebek Mercon (duck with extra spicy sauce), Grilled Fish with Dabu-Dabu (Manado spicy sauce), Lawar (minced vegetables and meat), Konro (ribs soup), etc.

You can also read: How I Became Fat in Indonesia.

4) The fourth best is to get a massage

Indonesia is one of the best countries in the world to get an excellent massage.

In Jakarta, for just US5$ you can have a professional masseuse at your door who will massage you for an hour. The easiest way to find a therapist is to download the app Go-Jek and to use the feature "Go-Massage". Alternatively, almost every hotel in Jakarta with more than 3 stars has an in-house spa or 24/7 massage services.

You can also check independent spas. The prices are between 15$ and 30$ for a 90-minute treatment in a decent venue. For a luxurious one, you can read my article: Best Luxury Spas in Jakarta.

To find the spa nearest from your place, you can use my guide Finding A Spa In Jakarta. Beware as I'm also mentioning plus plus spas (that are also quite an experience... you can try Delta if you are curious).

Expat women would tell you that Jakarta is a great place to have an inexpensive cream bath, a nail polish or a scrub. Beauty salons are not expensive and they can be found everywhere.

5) The fifth best is to do nothing 
"Nongkrong" ("hanging out" in English) is the trademark hobby of Indonesia. Basically, it means doing nothing with other people.

You can hang out pretty much anywhere: In a coffee shop, on top of a rooftop bar, in a restaurant, in front of a 7-eleven, in the street, at a friend's place, at the mosque, etc. All you need is at least another person. You may also add a beer, a kretek, a coffee and some snacks. A chair is not required as you can see on this photo:

You may feel it is a waste of your time but it's not. It is a time for relaxing, eating, drinking, socializing and adapting to a new environment. In such a hectic city, slowing down is essential to avoid going mad.

6) The sixth best is to walk around
As surprising as it may seem, my favorite day-time activity in Jakarta is simply to walk around in normal Indonesian neighborhoods. It is a free and simple thing to do, yet very rewarding.

Whenever I have guests coming to Jakarta, I always take them for a walk and they love it. It allows them to discover the softer, slower-paced side of the city, where regular folks live.

This is something you can do almost anywhere as long as you understand how Jakarta is organized. Most of the malls, offices, luxury residences and hotels are located along huge streets like Rasuna Said, Sudirman or Gatot Subroto. As soon as you venture behind those skyscrapers, you have smaller and smaller streets (also called "gangs"), where only motorbikes can enter. The atmosphere changes completely: It becomes almost rural with no traffic, low-rise houses, chicken running wild and women going to the mosque with their daster (a sort of daytime pajamas).

This drawing may (or may not) help you understand:
Three nice areas for walking around are Glodok (Jalan Kemenangan, near the Chinese temple Vihara Dharma Bhakti), Tanah Abang (you can go to Jalan Kebon Kacang I, II, III, etc) or Pasar Baru (Jalan Kelinci).

7) The seventh best is to visit the tourist spots
Some tourist spots in Jakarta are interesting, but it would be a mistake to visit them before doing the things listed above.

My most recommended attractions are the Istiqlal Mosque, the National Museum, Taman Fatahillah (a square in the Old Town with several museums and coffee shops) and Sunda Kelapa (the old harbour). All of these can be done within a day if you start early and if you choose a hotel in a central area (Where to Stay in Jakarta).

Other sights that you can skip:
Monas is not that special and the surrounding park is not well maintained.
Taman Mini is too far from the city center so it will take you the whole day to visit it.
Waterbom and DuFan are two themed parks that are only interesting if you have kids.

If you need more ideas, I have been to most tourist attractions in Jakarta and I reviewed them on Jakarta100bars here: Things to Do in Jakarta. You can also check my ranking of the best museums: 16 Best Museums in Jakarta.

8) The eighth best is to learn Indonesian
Indonesian is one of the most spoken languages in the world. It is easy to learn because there are no verb tenses or declensions (noun modifications). You can make sentences just by putting up words together. The pronunciation is also simple: Every letter has a sound.

A traveler I know managed to reach a conversational level within two weeks only. All he did was to memorize 200 words, then seize any opportunity to start a conversation with Indonesian people. He was dating a girl also, that helps.

If you stay in Jakarta more than a few weeks, or if you live in Southeast Asia, I recommend you to learn at least a few words. It will make your Indonesian experience richer and more enjoyable.

9) The ninth best is to go shopping
Indonesia is a protectionist country. This means anything imported or requiring imported components will be expensive, and anything that can be made local is (normally) cheap.

Shopping in traditional markets and shopping streets is a great local experience. I've written a complete article about these here: 25 Best Markets and Shopping Streets in Jakarta.

Shopping in middle-class malls is also fun and you may find a few bargains (though not as good as in Thailand or Vietnam). Indonesian-made clothes and accessories are generally cheap. Electronic equipment, mobile phones, computers and cameras with a local brand don't cost a lot as well, but the quality can be poor. There are always a lot of fake products too. Some of the best middle-class malls are ITC Mangga Dua, Mall of Indonesia, Mall Kelapa Kading, Mall Ambassador and Mall Taman Anggrek.

Shopping in luxury malls like Plaza Indonesia, Plaza Senayan or Pacific Place is not really interesting in terms of prices. Most items sold are more expensive than elsewhere. Those malls are still worth a visit if you want to see the glitzy side of Jakarta. It is also where you will find the most popular cafés, restaurants, bars, nightclubs and cinemas.

10) The tenth best thing to do in Jakarta is to get out
If you don't get out from Jakarta once in a while, you will start to hate it. There are flights from Jakarta to most airports in Indonesia, making it the best base to visit the country. 50$ will take you thousands of kilometers away to white sand beaches, world-class reef corals and indigenous tribes.

Get some travel ideas here: 11 Indonesian Islands You've Never Head Of and Bali Cheap Travel Guide.

10 Best Countries in Asia to Meet Girls Online (2020)

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Many Asian girls won't admit it but they are primarily looking for foreigners when using online dating apps and websites (if they weren't, why would they write their profiles in English?).

As a European or as an American, this means you will get much interest from girls and all that will translate into an incredible number of dating opportunities. If you have 1 or 2 matches per day on Tinder in your home country, you can expect to get at least 20 or 30 per day upon landing in Asia.

All guys have a different reaction to their newfound success. Some will go on a banging spree to compensate for years of sex drought. Others will become insanely picky, rejecting girls they would have dreamed of dating just a few months back. What is certain is that all of them feel much happier with this situation.

Each country in Asia has its own challenges though. First of all, you need to know what are the best dating websites/apps in the region. You can read my guide Best Dating Apps and Websites in Asia to help you with that.

Second, you need to know the characteristics of each countries: What are the girls like? How easy is it to date them? Do they accept an important age gap? Are they conservative or open-minded? What are the best cities for online dating? Etc.

The objective of this article is to answer those questions. If you still have some interrogations after reading it, please just leave a comment below and I'll do my best to help you with them.

These are the 10 best (easiest) countries in Asia to meet girls online:

1) Indonesia
It is simple to understand why Indonesia is the best country in Asia to meet girls. It has a population of 260 million people, among which an estimated 10 million are single girls from the middle class aged between 18 and 40. Considering there are less than 10,000 single male expats living in the country, that's about 1,000 single girls per foreigner.

In a city like Jakarta, you could probably spend your entire days dating and meeting girls, and yet you would still have to pass on great opportunities due to a lack of time.

Note that the situation in Bali is different than in the rest of the country. The number of foreigners is much higher and therefore the competition is more tense.

Pros
- Indonesian girls are exotic, fun, friendly, open-minded and easy-going.
- An age gap of up to 15 years between a man and a woman is common and accepted.
- Very high ratio of available girls / foreigner
- Contrary to stereotypes, Indonesian girls are not particularly conservative, especially in the main cities (Jakarta, Surabaya, Bali)
- Bahasa Indonesia, the local language, is easy to learn

Cons
- Some girls can be a bit overly religious. I also noticed there is an increasing number of girls wearing a veil which I don't find very attractive.
- Lack of tourist activities in the main cities, huge traffic jams.
- Higher cost of living (accommodation, food, alcohol) compared to Vietnam/Thailand
- Very few foreign girls online (except in Bali)

Best Cities/Provinces:
JakartaSurabayaBatamBaliYogyakarta

Best Dating Apps
Tinder, IndonesianCupid, SeekingArrangement (for sugar babies), Badoo, Skout, Beetalk, WeChat, Paktor


2) Philippines
The Philippines is basically a copy of Indonesia with a Spanish/American influence and Catholicism instead of Islam as the major religion.

The country attracts more foreigners, especially Asians (Koreans, Japanese), yet it is still a great destination for single guys.

Pros
- Some of the hottest girls in Asia (some with Latin and Western features)
- Easy to get plenty of matches and dates
- English widely spoken

Cons
- Many conservative girls (Catholic)
- Most large cities are boring
- Slow internet
- American way of life = Obesity is developing rapidly and at least 20% of girls are overweight

Best Cities/Provinces
ManilaCebu

Best Dating Apps
Tinder, FilipinoCupidPinaLoveSeekingArrangement (for sugar babies), Badoo, Skout

3) Vietnam
Vietnam has the reputation of having the most beautiful girls in Asia, but also the most conservative (I confirm both). While it is relatively easy to get a date with a local girl, you may struggle if you want to kiss her or sleep with her. They will politely tell you that they are keeping themselves for marriage, or at least for a serious relationship.

For this reason, Vietnam is not the best country for those looking for easy one-night stands. Instead, I would recommend it to guys who are searching for a serious girlfriend or a potential wife.

Pros
- The most beautiful girls in Asia: Slim, fair skin, feminine, classy (but often surgically-enhanced with fake boobs, fake nose, etc)
- An age gap of up to 20 years between a man and a woman is acceptable
- Easy to get at least a date in coffee shops, dessert houses, etc.
- A lot of interesting things to do for tourists in Hanoi or Saigon
- A higher education level compared to Indonesia, Thailand or the Philippines

Cons
- Conservative girls who often live with their parents until marriage
- English skills sometimes poor (and Vietnamese is hard to learn)
- The character is not as easy-going and fun as Filipinas or Indonesian girls.

Best Cities/Provinces
Saigon/HCMCHanoi, Danang, Nha Trang

Best Dating Apps
Tinder, VietnamCupidSeekingArrangement (for sugar babies), Badoo, Zalo, Beetalk (read my article about the best dating apps in Vietnam)

4) Singapore
Most likely, you won't meet a Singaporean girl in Singapore. However, you'll find it relatively easy to match with European, American, Australian, Indonesian or Filipino girls.

Pros
- Lots of girls from various nationalities and backgrounds
- Many highly-educated and independent women
- An enjoyable, yet expensive city

Cons
- Dining and drinking out is pricey
- Not that many good looking girls
- High competition among foreigners

Best City

Best Dating Apps
Tinder, Paktor, SingaporeLoveLinks, OKCupid, SeekingArrangement (for sugar babies)

5) Thailand
Many foreigners assume that Thailand is great for meeting girls, but in reality the country is a disappointment.

As an expat or permanent resident, you will get plenty of opportunities with lower to middle-class girls. Rich girls may be harder to get, especially online.

As a tourist though, you will not be an interesting candidate except for older girls, prostitutes and ladyboys.

Pros
- Convenient and interesting country for foreigners and tourists (even larger cities)
- Open-minded, fun and hot girls
- Decent english skills

Cons
- High number of prostitutes and ladyboys
- A lot of competition among foreigners

Best Cities/Provinces:
BangkokChiang Mai, Isaan Province (Udon Thani). Avoid Pattaya and Phuket.

Best Dating Apps
Tinder, ThaiCupidThaiFriendlySeekingArrangement (for sugar babies), Badoo, Skout

6) Taiwan
Sexy Taiwanese model Jennifer
For geopolitical reasons, the country has a positive view of foreigners, especially Americans and Europeans. As a result, girls are generally easy to approach and they make fantastic girlfriends.

Pros
- A lot of very educated, English-speaking, independent girls
- Rather low competition from other foreigners
- Great country for an expatriation

Cons
- 70% of the girls look like nerds/bookworms
- The most popular apps/websites are in Chinese

Best Cities/Provinces:
Taipei, Kaohsiung

Best Dating Apps
Tinder, Paktor, Skout, I-Part (in Chinese)

7) Cambodia
Hot Cambodian model Sunisa Kim
A few years ago when I first visited Cambodia, more than half the girls on dating sites were prostitutes, ladyboys or girls trying to find a way out of poverty. Things are much better today, as the middle class is slowly growing in size.

Pros
- Friendly, fun and genuine girls
- Low competition from other foreigners (usually older guys with limited financial means)

Cons
- Still quite many prostitutes and ladyboys online
- The number of middle class girls is still limited

Best Cities/Provinces:
Phnom Penh, Siem Reap

Best Dating Apps
Tinder, Badoo, Skout, AsianDating, Beetalk

8) Malaysia
Malaysia is an interesting country for guys who can't decide if they want to date Chinese, Indian, Malay, Indonesian, Filipino or Western girls. Another advantage is that Malaysian girls are often educated and they have decent salaries.

However, I've noticed that there is only a small number of girls on datings sites and apps. Also, on average I don't find them particularly attractive.

Pros
- Girls from different nationalities and ethnicities

Cons
- Not a large choice available on dating sites
- Many conservative and religious girls
- Some girls will not date guys outside of their ethnicity

Best Cities/Provinces:
Kuala Lumpur

Best Dating Apps
Tinder, Paktor, OKCupid, MalaysianCupid, Badoo, SeekingArrangement (for sugar babies)

9) Myanmar
Burmese Model Khin Coco
Burmese girls are not very active yet on dating sites and apps, but the country is popular with female tourists. For this reason, it is relatively easy to meet Western girls over there, especially in Yangon and Mandalay.

Pros
- Many desperate Western girls
- Some interesting cities to visit

Cons
- Few Burmese girls online
- Poor internet

Best Cities/Provinces:
Yangon, Mandalay

Best Dating App
Tinder

10) Laos
Laotian model Eileen Khaosanga
Lao girls can be quite pretty, but you won't find many on dating sites. Even worse, it is officially forbidden for foreigners to date Lao girls.

Pros
- Some pretty girls
- Many female tourists and backpackers

Cons
- Conservative country

Best Cities/Provinces:
VientianeLuang PrabangVang Vieng

Best Dating App
Tinder

Note
I've not tried online dating in a few additional Asian countries like South Korea, Hong Kong and China, which is why they are not in this list. My plan is to visit them before the end of 2017 so I will update this review by then.

Bangkok Nightlife: 30 Best Nightclubs, Bars, Gogos

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There are so many nightclubs in Bangkok that it may be hard for first-time visitors to decide where to party. I'm compiling here a description of the venue from the entire Bangkok nightlife scene to help your planning.

For each venue, I included a link to their Facebook page. I encourage you to check the opening hours, event and entrance fee there directly. In general, most clubs are open until 2-3am and they will charge you between 250THB and 400THB for the first drink/entry. The most expensive, Onyx and Cé La Vi cost 500THB.
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Beware! Not every hotel in Bangkok will accept if you bring a girl to your room. If you want to avoid an embarrassing moment, you can book the following guest-friendly hotels (that are also close to the nightlife): Heaven @ 4Ambassador BangkokRuamchitt Plaza HotelSukhumvit 12 Suites and Sofitel Bangkok.

Meeting Thai Girls in Nightclubs
Thai Cupid is the best dating site to meet Bangkok Girls
It is actually quite difficult to meet normal Thai women within nightclubs in Bangkok, especially if you are a tourist. Don't expect to find a one night stand easily unless you are willing to pay for it.

The best and easiest way to find a girl is to connect to the dating site Thai Cupid. It is free but I recommend you to spend some money and upgrade to the premium version. It costs the price of two cocktails (20$) and it will allow you to send as many messages as you want. They have over 1 million member and at least a thousand girls online at any time. If you are a normal human being you should match with tons of girls.

What you need to do is to contact them a few days before actually arriving in Bangkok. Try to find the fun girls who like to go clubbing and party, chat with them a bit, then get as many phone/Whatsapp/Line numbers as you can. Once in Bangkok, just invite them to join you on your nights out and you're basically almost certain you'll end your night with someone.

You can create an account here: Thai Cupid - Free Sign Up.

Tourist Nightclubs in Bangkok
I will start with the nightclubs you should actually avoid. Tourist nightclubs are the worse, but unfortunately many visitors only go to these places. One of the reason is that they ask for advice to taxi drivers who get a commission on each person they bring (200THB). This is why some taxis will even offer you a free ride.

In this category, you have the following nightclubs: Shock39, Spicy, Climax, BossyEQ. CM2 was one as well but it reopened under the name Play by CM2 and I haven't been back there since. Those places are all pretty much the same: They are rather dirty, have no design, rarely organize special events, rely on an endless supply of tourists and have 99% prostitutes. The only positive thing is that they stay open later than usual (until 5am-6am). The ratio guys/girls is terrible, meaning you may struggle to find a decent looking girl, even if you are willing to pay.

You should cross them from your clubbing list unless you fit into one of these categories:
  • You love commercial music (Top 40, Hip Hop)
  • You want to find an average-looking, yet expensive hooker
  • You want to party after 3am
  • You want to party in short pants and flip flops
  • You are a 20-year old countryside boy on his first trip abroad
  • You come from a country where clubbing is forbidden
Some tourist clubs are a bit better though. In particular, you can try Mixx or Insanity. They have a similar concept (Freelancers + Tourists + Stay Open Late + Commissions to Taxi) but they are classier.

Insanity is very near from Soi Cowboy and Nana Plaza so all the girls working in gogo bars tend to visit after they finish their work. It has a nice set up, it is modern and you may meet some normal girls as well. The music is not too bad, mostly house and EDM. I like the set-up with the central podium. It is popular with Koreans and many girls seem only interested with them.

Mixx is OK as well, but quite expensive. You have two rooms there, one of which has hip hop music. It is located in the 5-star Intercontinental Hotel so the crowd is upmarket and the prostitutes more like high-class escorts (some are Russian). It closes at 5am. It is popular with expats as well.

Expat Nightclubs in Bangkok
Those bars and nightclubs are preferred by richer expats and travelers who are already familiar with the city.

Levels (on 6th Floor of Aloft Hotel, Sukhumvit Soi 11)
This nightclub almost made the tourist clubs lists. It has lots of prostitutes (pretty ones I must admit) and a mixed crowd of 30-something expats and travelers. You may still meet normal girls though, especially if you say you have a good job in Bangkok. The music is EDM and House with a hip-hop night on Sundays. A nice feature is the garden rooftop from which you can smoke. The entrance is free but drinks inside are pricey.

Cé La Vi (on 39th Floor of Sathorn Square)
Used to be called Ku De Ta. Sister branch of Cé La Vi in Singapore. This is the top high-end nightclub for expats in Bangkok at the time of writing. You need to dress sharp and bring money. It's a good place to meet other people and possibly some upper class Thai girls. If you are looking like a tourist, you can forget about it though. Hip hop ladies night on Wednesday. The music style changes often depending on guest DJs or events. There are probably high class escorts but they are discreet.

Glow (Sukhumvit 33)
A small nightclub on two floors with European techno and electronic music. It is an expat's favorite of Bangkok nightlife. You will barely see any tourists or Thai people (apart from the expat's girlfriends). Glow is recommended if you want to experience European-style clubbing.

Beam (Thonglor)
I have mixed feeling with Beam. It is a beautifully designed nightclub, with impressive lighting and smoke effects. I've rarely seen something similar elsewhere. It also has a great variety of DJs who play non-commercial electronic music and hip hop. On the negative side, it is pricey (400THB entrance) and the crowd not so friendly to be with. If you like it, you can also go to Dark Bar which is similar.

Mustache (Ratchadaphisek)
Under Belgian management, this alternative bar is one of the current hotspots in Bangkok. It is not exactly in the city center but 15 minutes away by taxi from Sukhumvit (it's a new location). The music there is similar to that of Beam or Glow but the crowd is younger and more laidback. You have two floors, including a rooftop bar. It closes late and the entrance is free.

Sing Sing TheaterMaggie Choos and Iron Fairies
Those 3 bar-clubs are similar as they all have world-class design, a chic expat crowd, good cocktails and non-commercial music. Each are worth a visit, ideally just after eating and before heading to bigger nightclubs.

Live RCA (Royal City Avenue)
Live RCA is a clubbing event space attracting major International DJs (techno, tech-house, house, EDM). They will have something different each week so it's better if you check on their Facebook beforehand. The crowd can be more or less expat depending on the DJ. Open only on weekends.

Other bars you may want to try to meet young expats: Revolucion and Oskar.

Backpacker Nightlife
Backpackers and expats on a budget normally party on Khao San Road. It is not classy but it can be fun once in a while. It is the best location to meet Western girls in Thailand.

You cannot go there directly with the BTS or MRT. It's a 120THB taxi ride from Sukhumvit. The advantage of Khao San Road is that everything is in one spot. You can just go from one bar to the other, buying cheap buckets of booze in-between.

The main nightclub is simply call "The Club". It is next to a bar called Golf which is always packed. If you cannot afford the club entrance (250THB), you can just party in the street, it's pretty much the same crowd and atmosphere. For a more rustic option, you can go to GulliverBrick Bar is also popular, but the crowd mostly Thai.

Hi-So Nightclubs in Bangkok
Hi-so (for High Society) is a popular term in Thailand to describe the richest Thais, the top 1%. If you are a 20-year old kid who owns a Porsche and dates a famous actress, then you are hi-so.

Hi-so Thais party in only a few locations in Central Bangkok: Royal City Avenue (Onyx) and Thonglor/Ekkamai (Funky Villa, Demo, Do Not Disturb). Thonglor is also where you'll find most hipster and trendy bars of Bangkok.

You will see the most beautiful Thai girls in some of these clubs, but you have very little chances with them unless you're part of a group. These girls are scared of tarnishing their reputation by mingling with foreigners. So you need to get the approval of the group first, and then you might get the approval of the girl.

In most Thai nightclubs (including the ones listed below), people party Asian/Chinese style: They book a sofa, order expensive bottles, stay within their small groups of friends, get drunk until they pass out and show off their wealth as much as they can. If you cannot book a table, you'll be squeezed and you'll struggle to get a drink from bartenders who are too busy to take care of VIP guests.

Booking a table means that you agree to spend a certain amount on alcohol. For instance, if the minimum spend to get a table is 300$, it means you can spend 300$ on bottles, mixers and food. If you are splitting the bill with several friends, it is often a better deal than buying drinks individually. Bottles in those clubs are not that expensive, THB2,000 is largely enough for a good whisky.

Dress code are enforced (and anyway you don't want to look like a tourist): No shorts, no sandals, no singlets. They always check IDs so make sure to bring your passport with you, even if you look 40. Some places will charge you more if you are a foreigner (Farang), but you'll get free drinks with your entry. 

Onyx is one of the poshiest nightclubs for Thai. It is pricey (500 THB entrance fee with a drink), yet so crowded you'll barely be able to move around. Go with friends and order bottle service. An ID is necessary to enter.

Funky Villa was one of the most famous nightclubs for rich Thai but it burnt down just a few days ago (end of June 2016). They had live Thai music with famous local bands.

Next to Funky Villa (same owner), they have EDM and a smaller bar  called "Dirty Bar" with hip hop.

Very young rich Thai crowd listening to live bands. Similar to Funky Villa.

Do Not Disturb Club (DND Club): Similar to Demo, located behind Nunglen. They have live Thai bands and EDM DJs.

You may also want to check Myst, Safehouse and Falabella.

Nightclubs for Middle Class Thai
Unlike nightclubs like Funky Villa or Onyx, you'll be more welcome here as a foreigner. Those places are among the most fun to party in Bangkok as long as you don't mind commercial music.

They are also excellent for meeting regular, non-prostitute Thai girls. Typically, this is where students and office workers party. Don't expect that everything will be easy though. The main problem is that girls are often already accompanied by some guys who are paying for their drinks. Because of this, they may not be so comfortable spending time with you within the club. The solution is either to befriend other members of her group and join the table, or to exchange numbers. The next day she should be more relaxed.

Many tourists avoid these clubs because they cannot get laid instantly. You will only have 5%-10% foreigners on average, most of which are younger expats.

I am only listing places with DJs and Western music. If you are adventurous and looking for a local experience, you'll also find many other nightclubs with a 100% Thai crowd and Thai live music, especially outside the city center.

Route 66 in RCA
Route 66 is the place to go to for down-to-earth, normal clubbing in Bangkok. It is really big, with several rooms including an EDM zone, a hip-hop room and a live music area. The crowd is middle to upper class. It has become more popular with expats because it is always crowded and easy for meeting people.

Clubs of Ratchada 4
Ratchada 4 is a small entertainment complex 10 minutes away from Sukhumvit. There are several nightclubs, bars and karaokes in one spot. Among them, you'll find Snop, Embassy MBS, HollywoodNext 7 Pub, etc.

Not too far, on Ratchada 4, you can visit the brand new MAD, which used to be Mansion7.

Brick Bar
This is a good place to party with Thai if you are in the Khao San Road area.

Narz is one of the oldest clubs in Bangkok. It used to be the place to go for hip hop but now they play mostly EDM/Trance. It is not as crowded as it used to be but on Weekends it's still OK.

Hip Hop Nightclubs in Bangkok
Bangkok has the largest hip-hop and Rn'B scene in Southeast Asia. On every given night, you have at least 5 venues to choose from that are either dedicated to hip-hop or having a special hip-hop event.

The best one is Sugar, conveniently located on Sukhumvit Soi 11. This is a NY-style nightclub where the Bangkok hip-hop community meets. There is a good mix of expats and Thai people. The entrance is quite cheap, 200THB, inclusive of a drink. Another popular choice, more high-end, is the Dirty Bar within Demo club in Thonglor.
G Club is the favorite club of the African community in Bangkok. They play hip-hop, Rn'B, Reggae and Afro music.

There is a recently new hip-hop club I didn't visit called Vibe. They stopped updating their Facebook a few months ago so I don't know if they are still open or not.

Some large nightclubs in Bangkok also have smaller rooms with hip hop or Rn'B. It is the case of Route 66 and Mixx.

Finally, Cé La Vi has a great hip hop ladies night every Wednesday and Levels has one on Sundays.

Late Night/ After Hour Nightclubs in Bangkok
The curfew policy of many Bangkok nightclubs is a big turn-off for me. The rules seem to have eased a bit the past year (you can party until 3am now), but I still find it too early.

Don't start your nights out late in Bangkok, even more so during the week. I recommend you to eat around 6pm, find a nice bar at 8pm, and hit the clubs at 11pm.

A recommended after hour club is Scratch Dog (until 6am) inside Windsor Suites Hotel. It is a place with many prostitutes but if you're lucky you can meet some normal girls as well. There is a good mix of Thai and foreign guests, including some Asian nationalities. You must pay 400THB to get in with a drink.

Even though I'm not a big hip hop fan, I would say that Sugar (mentioned above) is one of the best places for late clubbing. It closed at 6am when I went there and it had a great atmosphere with no so many hookers. People were friendly and happy to meet talk to strangers. There are some reports that the security can be racist and rough, but I haven't noticed anything special. (Update Dec 2016: Since the King died, it closes at 4am).

Mustache is closing at 6am and it is where many expats are heading for underground music. There are no prostitutes at all so if you're horny and trying to score, you should avoid. It is also a bit far.

If you are looking for a female partner, go to Insanity where you'll have the largest choice of affordable freelancers + a few normal girls. Mixx closes at 5am and have a lot of (high-class) working girls too.

Finally, tourist nightclubs like Shock39SpicyClimaxBossy and EQ are also closing late.

Free Nightclubs (No Entrance Fee) in Bangkok
If you are a guy, you must pay to get into most nightclubs in Bangkok. Girls can get for free during the ladies night (see below for a list of the best ones).

There are 2 nightclubs with free entrance that I know of. Levels and Mustache. Some Thai nightclubs like Demo are also free during the week, but they may charge a first drink to foreigners (apparently to filter the weed). Cé La Vi is free during the week but it costs 500THB on weekends.

If you are really a cheapo, you can party for free in the streets of Khao San Road. Many bars are packed with people who bought their drinks in 7-11.

Ethnic Nightclubs (Arab, African, Russian) in Bangkok
Bangkok nightlife is eclectic! There are a few ethnic nightclubs in Bangkok, near Nana Plaza in particular. I haven't been inside but I passed in front of some several times.

Arabs/Middle Eastern visitors will go to Dino Club inside Graceland Hotel (which is a girl-friendly hotel). Needless to say, it's full with hookers there. They also love to go to Shock39.

The African community gathers in G-Terminal Club that I mentioned above.

There are also some nightclubs and lounges with many prostitutes from Russia, Eastern Europe and Central Asia. For instance in Rajah Hotel, Bossy or Mixx Disco.

Japanese visitors tend to stay near Sukhumvit Soi 33 as there are several Japanese style massage parlours there (nuru massage). They also go to Thermae in the basement of the Ruamchitt Plaza Hotel where many freelancers can be found.

Asian clubbers from Korea, Malaysia, Singapore, Taiwan and Hong Kong tend to stick to the Thai nightclubs in RCA or Thonglor.

Gogo Bars
Almost all the gogo clubs in Bangkok can be found in just 3 locations: Nana Plaza, Soi Cowboy and Patpong. If you are confused about where to go: Nana Plaza is the largest complex, Soi Cowboy is the hottest, Patpong is the trashiest. You can walk from Soi Cowboy to Nana Plaza in 15 minutes, and go from both to Patpong in 15 minutes by taxi (or public transport).

In each of these, you have dozens of gogo bars, one after the other. To the undiscerning visitor, they may all look the same, but a regular could tell you the differences between each. Some will feature topless girls, some will have naked girls, some allow you to touch the girls, some have special shows, some have ladyboys, some have older girls, some are for Japanese, etc.

You are usually sitting down in a circle and looking at the girls. You can ask to talk with one and buy her ladies drink. She may also go home with you if she agrees. In this case, you must compensate the bar with a bar fine. It is best to visit gogo bars early in the evening, ideally around 7pm or 8pm, because the prettiest girls haven't been booked out already.

I've listed the hottest gogo bars in Bangkok in the following review: Top Nude Gogo Bars in Bangkok. If you are too lazy to open the link, I recommend you to try Baccara and Crazy House in Soi Cowboy, Spanky's in Nana Plaza, Black Pagoda in Patpong.

High-Class Gentlemen's Clubs in Bangkok
If you have both money and a taste for exceptionally gorgeous ladies, you may want to avoid the average gogo bars scene of Nana Plaza, Patpong or Soi Cowboy. Bangkok has several high-class gentlemen's clubs spread all over the city where you are almost assured to lose your head at the sight of dozens of scantily-clad hotties.

In Bangkok, the term "Gentlemen's Club" is used to describe a kind of hostess bars with coyote shows, where most clients are "members". To become a member, you must buy in advance several bottles of alcohol that you can use within a year. The prices aren't that high if you are a regular: At The Pimp for instance, with 550$ you get membership + 12 whisky bottles. If you go there with 4 friends and drink 2 bottles in total, you will have spent less than 30$ each on alcohol for your night out (and then you have to do it 5 more times during the year).

Without a membership, it is unfortunately expensive. In the best gentlemen's clubs, a non-member can expect to spend up to 200$ between the entrance fee, the drinks (for you and your hostess) and the tips. Again, you'll save a lot of money if you buy a bottle so go there with a few friends.

Girls in those clubs usually make enough money with commissions they get from drinks so they aren't really interested to sleep with you. Your chances of taking one back home are slim, or you'll need to spend a crazy amount of money. 

If your budget is limited, you can go to an upmarket gogo bars instead like Baccara or Black Pagoda. The best ones have a great selection of girls and a luxurious atmosphere. It is much easier to barfine someone there as well.

Here are a few recommendations for gentlemen's clubs in Bangkok: Kush Mansion, Sherbet & Pianoforte, The Pimp, Monte Carlo and Vegas.

Best Venues to Pick Up Girls
It really depends on what you are looking for: Paid sex, free one-night stand or relationship.

For paid sex, the best places are certainly the gogo bars, Mixx club and Insanity.

For one night stand, you need to find Westernized Thai girls. I'd recommend Cé La ViSugar and Levels.

For relationships, the best places are Route 66, Live RCA and the clubs of Ratchada 4.

Best Nightclubs for Each Day of The Week
Best Nightclubs for Monday: OnyxInsanityMixx
Best Nightclubs for Tuesday: LevelsSugar
Best Nightclubs for Wednesday: Cé La ViDemo
Best Nightclubs for Thursday: Route 66Levels, Ratchada 4
Best Nightclubs for Weekends: Anywhere is busy
Best Nightclubs for Sunday: InsanityLevels

Best Ladies Night in Bangkok
The best ladies4 night in Bangkok is on Wednesdays at Cé La Vi from 9pm to midnight. Girls get a free flow of sparkling wine. They also have a Free Flow wine on Saturday from 9pm to 11pm.

Levels has a great one on Sundays: Girls get 3 free drinks before midnight and all-night-long 99THB cocktails.

Insanity has a ladies night on Sundays: Girls get 2 free drinks and if they come by 4, they get a free bottle of sparkling wine.

In Hi-So in So Sofitel Bangkok, girls get a free glass of Champagne from 8pm to 11pm.

In Bangkok Betty, girls get 3 free drinks before 9pm

Any questions about clubbing in Bangkok? Please write a message below and I'll try to answer it. Photocredit: Win Photos.

15 Best Dating Apps and Websites to Meet Asian Girls (2020)

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The key to successfully meeting girls in Asia is to master the right dating apps and websites.

The first step for that is to familiarize yourself with the different options available and to understand the strengths/weaknesses of each.

It is also important to know the specificities of each Asian country. Some apps or websites can be popular in Thailand but completely useless in the Philippines and vice versa. 

There are 5 different types of online tools that you can use for meeting new girls in Asia:

Location-based apps on mobile (and sometimes desktop)
An app that lets you find girls around you (for instance Tinder, Bumble, or Paktor).

Dating/Matchmaking websites on desktop only
A website that connects you with selected profiles living in a certain area (for instance AsianDating)

Messaging apps
An app primarily used for communicating with friends, but with a "look around" feature that allows you to meet new people (for instance WeChat or BeeTalk)

Social media
A social network that can be used for meeting girls if you know how to play it right (for instance Instagram, Facebook or Bigo Live).

Niche websites or apps
These cater to a specific group of people, for instance Muslims (Muslima), gays (Grindr), men interested in ladyboys (MyLadyBoyDate), swingers (AdultFriendFinder), sugar daddies and sugar babies (SeekingArrangement.com), etc.

In the following review, I will rank the best dating apps and websites in Asia. I tried each one in every country during my travels (while writing my Asia Nightlife Guides).

I will start with the ones that work well everywhere, and then give you a few more that are specific to some countries.

Apps/websites that work well in most countries
These apps and websites below are generally popular in every Asian country. In Laos, Myanmar and Cambodia, they are the only ones that you can use.

Asia Dating (best for men who are traveling)
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The AsianDating website is part of the Cupid network and as such, it benefits from a huge database of girls in every country. On average, it has over 2,000 women online at any time, especially girls living in the Philippines, in Indonesia, in Thailand, and in Vietnam. They are openly looking for a foreign husband or boyfriend.

It is pretty much the opposite of Tinder. Many users are still corresponding through emails, sometimes for weeks before deciding to meet. Girls won't mind if you are still in your home country as long as you have a plan to visit them in Southeast Asia.

As with most websites, the registration is free but you will need to pay extra to access better features.

Pros:
AsianDating is clearly marketed as a dating website for Asian girls looking to meet foreigners
- Great for guys who are not yet in Asia and with older guys
- Allows for deeper conversations and connections
- Matchmaking features to help you find specific types of girls

Cons:
- The free version is limited so you need to upgrade to the premium one rather quickly

If you are interested in girls from one specific Asian country only, then it is better to subscribe to:
→ ThaiCupid for Thai girls
→ VietnamCupid for Vietnamese girls
→ IndonesianCupid for Indonesian girls
→ FilipinoCupid for Filipinas

Tinder (for younger men living in Asia)
Tinder is the most widely-used dating app in Asia, especially among educated women and foreign girls. Most of its features are free, but you may want to pay a little extra to get more matches or to change your location.

Personally, I'm not a big fan. The problem with Tinder in Asia is easy to understand. It is an app that was originally designed for Americans to hook up: You match, you exchange a few jokes, you set up a date. It was supposed to be fast and efficient.

In Asia, since hooking up and one-night stands are not widely accepted (the most common profile sentence is "If you are looking for hook-up swipe left), things move much slower. You need to spend more time chatting and based on my experience, it often leads to nothing. After a few messages exchanged, she or you will get bored, and then you forget about her because you've got 10 new matches.

Pros:
- Mostly free
- Very popular among English-speaking and upper-class girls
- Great for meeting Western girls
- Fun and easy to use
- Ideal for good-looking guys between 18-40

Cons:
- Lots of competition from other guys
- Hard to keep a long and meaningful conversation
- You need to be able to type fast on a mobile phone
- Tourists are often labeled as "not serious" and ignored
- A lot of girls will match with you yet they won't reply your messages
- Superficial: Being good-looking is the number one factor of success (a nicely written profile is number 2)

Bumble (to find more educated women)
Bumble has been called the "feminist" dating app because girls have to message guys first (They have 24 hours to do so).

It is currently one of my favorite dating apps because, even though it doesn't have as many profiles as Tinder, most girls using it are educated and they have good jobs. It is also on this app that you will find the most foreign girls.

Pros:
➝ Smart and educated girls
➝ High proportion of foreign girls
➝ No need to message the girls first (great feature for those who hate having to make the first move)
➝ There is a video call feature within the app

Cons:
➝ Only a mobile app so you have to type your messages on your mobile
➝ Not as many profiles as on Tinder
➝ It doesn't work so well if you are only visiting a country

SeekingArrangement: For rich guys who want to date younger Asian girls
This dating site is quite unique and controversial. All girls are considered "sugar babies" who are willing to go on a date in exchange for gifts, money, travels or dinners. All guys are "sugar daddies" (not necessarily old) who are willing to sponsor the girls.

I met a few Asian girls, all students, who were using it. They told me the thing they liked the most was free travels so they could flood their Instagram accounts with pictures.

This site is good for guys who want to have a younger and beautiful mistress in Asia. Since money is involved, it is also not hard for a wealthy guy to find the perfect match.

Pros:
➝ Much more girls than guys so you are guaranteed to meet someone
➝ Many upper-class and classy girls
➝ Girls are easy to talk to, friendly, and they will often accept going on a date
➝ Straight-forward

Cons:
➝ A bit expensive.
➝ There are some real sugar babies looking for chemistry, but also some prostitutes

Paktor (for young, upper-class Asians)
A profile on Paktor app
Paktor is a dating app originally from Singapore. It is very similar to Tinder, with a few cool additional features (for instance, you can hide your profile from your Facebook friends or you can send digital gifts).

It is the most popular app among young "Chinese" from Southeast Asia: Indo-Chinese, Malaysian-Chinese, Singaporean-Chinese, etc.

Pros:
- Young upper-class girls (Hi-So)
- Very user-friendly and fun to use
- Ideal for guys between 18 and 25
- Many active profiles

Cons:
- You can't do much without being a member ($20/month)
- Many girls seem to be looking for guys from the same ethnicity/background

Skout and Badoo
Skout and Badoo are dating websites that also have their own location-based apps. They are quite similar in terms of popularity and crowd. They are particularly big in Indonesia, in Vietnam and in the Philippines, where they are used by middle-class women and men. Among them, many will be unable to speak English. On Badoo especially, I've noticed that there is a significant number of prostitutes (or at least girls who are looking for a sponsor).

Both Skout and Badoo are free but you will be limited if you don't buy at least a few credits or a membership.

Pros:
- Mostly free
- Very popular, there are always hundreds of girls online
- You can match with a girl on the mobile app, then chat with her from your laptop

Cons:
- As it is free, lot of other guys are using it and you'll probably need to pay extra money to stand out from the crowd
- Many prostitutes and fake profiles

Instagram
Instagram is an awesome way to meet girls online, but it is also the one that requires the most efforts. To be successful on this social network, obviously, you need an interesting account with pictures that demonstrate you have an awesome life (lots of travel, dining, hotels, parties and friends pictures). I would say you also need to have at least 500 followers.

Once you've reached this level, you can start following the accounts of girls you like, then comment on their pictures, until they finally notice you. Once you're allowed to chat with them, just exchange WhatsApp numbers.

Pros:
- Completely free
- Millions of Asian girls use Instagram every day including local celebrities and socialites
- It allows you to approach girls who are not using dating sites

Cons:
- Time-consuming

WeChat and BeeTalk
WeChat, Line and BeeTalk are messaging apps, respectively from China and Korea, with a "look around" feature.

This feature allows its users to search and talk to strangers who are located within a short distance from them.

Pros:
- 100% free
- Many girls online, especially in large cities
- WeChat and Beetalk are not really considered "dating apps" so u can use them without arousing suspicions (if you are already in a relationship)

Cons:
- Few girls will reply to you or accept your chat requests
- English is rarely spoken
- 90% of prostitutes and ladyboys on WeChat

Apps/websites for specific countries:
Some apps and websites only work in specific countries. In particular, you have each of the websites from the Cupid Network (IndonesianCupid, VietnamCupid, etc).

For more country-related advice, please read my article 10 Best Countries for Meeting Asian Girls Online.

Indonesia
IndonesianCupid has between 500 and 1,000 Indonesian girls online at anytime. It is a local version of AsianDating, meaning it is more suitable for older guys who prefer traditional dating sites (see above).

Vietnam
VietnamCupid has around 1,000 to 1,500 Vietnamese girls online at anytime. It is the Vietnamese version of AsianDating.

Philippines
FilipinoCupid is the most successful website of the Cupid group and it is the absolute best for meeting pretty Filipinas. There are between 3,000 and 6,000 women online at anytime, much more than its closest competitor PinaLove.

Thailand

The two best dating websites for meeting Thai girls are ThaiCupid (around 4,000 women online) and ThaiFriendly (up to 3,000).

Malaysia
MalaysianCupid is not that popular yet but you can still create an account and see if there are any girls you like. You can also try OKCupid.com.

Singapore
SingaporeLoveLinks is dedicated to the Singaporean market. OKCupid, Tinder and Paktor are much better though in terms of audience.

Is It Better to Date a Javanese or a Sundanese Girl?

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Until today, I had never dared writing an article about ethnicity in Indonesia. I didn't want to appear racist and also because my knowledge on the subject is limited. As I'm growing older I start to care less, so here I am giving you advice on whether it is best to date/marry a Javanese or a Sundanese girl.

Be aware that I am basing this whole piece on personal experience only. This is not a scientific paper, it's just entertainment. You may have a completely different opinion and I would love to hear it (especially if you are an Indonesian reader). Please just write a comment below.

The two main ethnic groups in Indonesia are the Javanese (90 million people, 40% of the population) and the Sundanese (36 million people, 15.5% of the population). Both have distinct traditions, languages, cultures and cuisines. Javanese live mostly in East Java (Yogyakarta, Surabaya) while Sundanese are from the Bandung region.

In Jakarta, most of the girls you meet will be either Javanese or Sundanese. It is also common to come across Bataknese (Medan), Betawi (pure Jakarta), Indonesian-Chinese, Manadonese (Manado) and Makassarese (Makassar). In Bali, apart from Balinese, you will see more Madurese (Madura) and ethnicities from Eastern Indonesia (Flores, Timur, Maluku).

Most expats don't really care about that and they consider it's pretty much all the same. On the contrary, Indonesians like to point at the differences between the people of each provinces. They will give specific traits to some ethnicities, negative or positive, and based on these stereotypes they might deem that some mixed "race" couples are not desirable. For instance, a persistent myth among Indonesians is that a couple between a Javanese men and a Sundanese women cannot work well.

For better understanding, let's review what are the stereotypes about the three main Indonesian ethnical groups:

The Sundanese Character:
Sundanese Model Melli Voo
What Indonesians say:
Sundanese are considered soft and easy-going. It is said that due to their welcoming nature, the penetration of Islam among them was faster and easier compared to the Javanese. For this reason, they are overall more religious compared to the Javanese.

Some will say that they lack ambition and they are not willing to live far from their home. One of the consequences is that there are less of them in top jobs and positions. Among ministers or ex-presidents of Indonesia, very few were Sundanese.

Sundanese girls are often called the most beautiful women in Indonesia, mainly because of their lighter skin color.

If you date a Sundanese, you might experience a surge in your monthly expenses. Sundanese girls love to spend on clothes, cellphones, laptops, shoes, beauty products and entertainment. Such gifts are expected as a part of the relationship and it is sometimes hard to know how sincere the love is.

Sundanese girls are sometimes criticized for behaving like divas: High maintenance, spoiled, overly dramatic and proud of their appearance. It seems they are aware of their value and they know how to get the best from it.

My personal experience:
Regarding the beauty of Sundanese girl: They are indeed pretty but I prefer Manadonese (because they look a bit like Filipinas). Girls in Malang are also just as attractive.

About their open mindset, Sundanese are hospitable like anywhere in Indonesia. I didn't notice any differences staying in Bandung or Surabaya. I also don't feel they are less ambitious than other Indonesians.

Regarding the materialistic mindset of Sundanese girls: I found it to be generally true, with several exceptions though. You must differentiate educated girls from Bandung's middle and upper class with countryside girls from Indramayu. Girls from poorer background may be expected by their families to marry with someone who will take care of them. Those girls are usually popular among Indonesian men and expats so they have a wide range of option. Naturally, they will not choose the stingy ones. Beauty in Indonesia often comes with at a price and I've learned to be careful with gorgeous Sundanese. I normally avoid them.

The Javanese Character:
Miss Indonesia 2015 - Maria Harfanti - is Javanese
What Indonesians say:
Javanese are often characterized with the "nrimo" concept of life, which means accepting your fate by seeing the bright side of it. For instance, if you cannot afford a car, you will think that walking keeps you healthy. As a result, Javanese are said to be obedient and submissive. They are also avoiding conflicting situations, preferring to keep their feelings to themselves rather than expressing them.

My personal experience:
My relationships/dates with Javanese girls have been more successful than those with Sundanese girls. I've never really noticed that they were more submissive, but they were less money-oriented and less childish.

Expats with passive-aggressive and shy personalities may feel more comfortable with a Javanese girlfriend.

The Batak Character:
Zivanna Letisha Siregar is half Batak
What Indonesians say:
Bataknese have quite a unique reputation in Indonesia. Because Dutch set up missionary schools early in the 20th century around the Lake Toba area, many Batak were able to get a good education, sometimes in Holland, and then high positions in the government. Until today, they occupy many prestigious jobs (lawyers, engineers, doctors, etc) and they are seen as a smart ethnic group.

For centuries, they were living isolated in the mountains, and therefore they developed a strong character. They are tough to negotiate with, feisty and they like to stay between themselves.

My personal experience:
I've met quite a lot of Batak, men and women, while I was in Indonesia. As far as I can tell, the stereotypes about them are rather true. The two Indonesian lawyers I ever dealt with were Batak, and they were tough and uncompromising. My first Indonesian girlfriend was also a Batak and our relationship was mostly fights and screams. Most of her friends were also Batak.

Overall: Is It Better to Date/Marry a Javanese, Sundanese or Batak Girl?
As I mentioned, I've had better experiences with Javanese girls, but there are more factors at play than just the ethnicity. My feeling is that the socioeconomic and the education background is what matters the most. You may also feel more attracted to certain personality traits as well. Among expats, I noticed that many are dating or marrying Batak girls. They may enjoy their outspoken and confident personality which is more similar to that of a Western girl. In my case however, I tend to avoid them because I prefer someone quiet and easy-going.

Indonesia Nightlife: 12 Best Cities for Partying

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I've partied in all the major cities in Indonesia (as well as in much smaller ones!) so I thought it could be useful to summarize everything I've learned in one article. Hopefully it will give you ideas for your next trip!

Without further ado, please find below the 12 best cities/regions for nightlife in Indonesia:

Jakarta
Jakarta is without any doubt the best city for partying in Indonesia. There are at least 20 decent nightclubs, more than 100 bars, and thousands of restaurants. The mindset is also quite liberal (at least in the upper class) and you'll find some wild venues like no other in the country (strip clubs, luxury massage parlors, etc). Since most of the clubbers are expats or wealthy Indonesians, you'll need to dress up and to spend quite a lot to have fun. If you are looking forward meeting beautiful women, Jakarta is fantastic too.

→ Most recommended venues: Jenja, Immigrant, Dragonfly, X2, Basque
→ Where to stay near the nightlife: Near Jalan Sudirman, near Sarinah or near Plaza Indonesia


South Bali
The South Bali region, from Kuta to Canggu and including Legian, Denpasar, Sanur and Seminyak, is a fun playground for party-goers. Each city has its own crowd: Young tourists in Kuta, regulars in Seminyak, expats in Canggu, Indonesians in Denpasar and older people in Sanur. It is a more laid-back and diverse than Jakarta, and naturally, it is mostly targeting foreigners.

→ Most recommended venues: Skygarden (Kuta), La Favela (Seminyak), Jenja (Legian), Opivm (Seminyak), Motel Mexicola (Seminyak)
→ Where to stay near the nightlife: Near Sky Garden (Kuta), near Double Six Beach (Legian) or near Jalan Oberoi (Seminyak)


Bandung
Just 3 hours from Jakarta, Bandung is a major student town attracting Indonesians from all over the country. As such, it is home to a myriad of unpretentious bars and clubs, usually reasonably-priced and filled with enthusiast youngsters. People tend to party in groups there so bring friends with you and book a table. Girls from Bandung (Sundanese) are among the most beautiful in the country but they are not as free-spirited as the ones you'll meet in Jakarta.

→ Most recommended venues: Shelter, Sobbers, Southbank, Amnesia
→ Where to stay near the nightlife: Near Jalan Braga


Surabaya
Even though Surabaya is the second largest city in Indonesia, it still retains a provincial atmosphere. Foreigners are very rare, meaning you will get plenty of attention from girls. Compared to Bandung, the crowd is older and more wealthy. Clubs are often targeting groups of males, with sexy dancers shows and ladies that can be booked for companionship.

→ Most recommended venues: Top 10 Coyote, M-One, Foreplay
→ Where to stay near the nightlife: Near Surabaya Town Square or Near Tunjungan Plaza


Gili Trawangan
The tiny island of Gili Trawangan is less than a 2-hour boat ride from Bali. Every night, hundreds of Westerners in their 20s party in one of the beach cafés near the pier. Alcohol is cheap, probably because it is fake, and mushrooms/marijuana is easy to buy. It reminds me a lot of the nightlife in some Thai islands (Koh Phangan, Koh Phi Phi).

→ Most recommended venue: Jiggy Bar
→ Where to stay near the nightlife: Near Gili Trawangan Harbour


Yogyakarta
Yogyakarta is both a student and a tourist town. As such, it boasts a rather large selection of nightspots, most of which are within a short perimeter from Jalan Malioboro.

→ Most recommended venues: Liquid, Boshe, Terrace, Sakapatat, Tap House, Sugar
→ Where to stay near the nightlife: Near Malioboro Street


Nagoya (Batam)
Batam nightlife is an odd mix of drug-ridden discos, shady massage parlors and deserted hostess bars. It could be much better but it is in the hands of a local mafia who is unable to take advantage of the location just 45 minutes from Singapore.

→ Most recommended venues: F1 Club, Square, Kampung Bule, Titanium
→ Where to stay near the nightlife: Hotels Near Batam Nightlife and Spas


Tangerang
Tangerang nightlife is still quiet and limited to a few fun clubs. However, its proximity with Jakarta makes it obvious that things will improve over the next few years. A destination to watch!

→ Most recommended venues: Enigma, Clique
→ Where to stay near the nightlife: Serpong


Malang
Malang is my favorite city in Indonesia! The climate is not too hot, the girls are cute, it is not too polluted (yet), and the car traffic is reasonable. The town is a smaller version of Bandung, with an important student community. Most of the nightlife consists of laid-back live music pubs and cafés, but you also have a couple of modern nightclubs.

→ Most recommended venues: MyPlace, Hugo's, Smooth
→ Where to stay near the nightlife: Near Alun-Alun Kota


Balikpapan
As a city geared towards the oil industry, you can't expect the nightlife in Balikpapan to be particularly sophisticated: Most bars and clubs are intended to help men find company for the night and that's it. A few recent openings are worth more than just a short visit, though.

→ Most recommended venues: Embassy, D'Luv, Le Centro Club, Penthouse
→ Where to stay near the nightlife: Near E-Walk Mall (Check on Agoda)

Samarinda
Similar to Balikpapan, Samarinda is also a town that developed thanks to the mining/oil & gas industry. People have money to spend, and you will be surprised by how swanky some nightclubs are. Unfortunately, all of them are hostess bars so you won't meet a normal girl easily on a night out.

→ Most recommended venues: Deja VuMuseCrowners, Celcius 
→ Where to stay near the nightlife: Near Citra Niaga Mall (Check on Agoda)

Semarang
Semarang is the 5th largest city in Indonesia, but its nightlife is a bit underwhelming due to the lack of either tourists or students. One advantage is that you will certainly be the only westerner around.

→ Most recommended venues: Babyface, Sakapatat, E-Plaza, Liquid
→ Where to stay near the nightlife: Near Mall Ciputra

Read More: Semarang Nightlife

Guide to Meeting and Dating Indonesian Girls (2019)

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The following guide is a datasheet with all the essential information you'll need to know about meeting and dating Indonesian girls.

It's a list of questions that people have asked me over time. I tried to answer them as concisely as possible so you won't lose time reading it. If you still have interrogations, please ask them in the comment section below.

What Are the Best Cities to Meet Indonesian Girls?

1) Jakarta and its suburbs (Bekasi, Depok, Tangerang)
The whole metropolitan area has 35 millions inhabitants in total. That's probably several million single women. No need to say more.

2) Surabaya
Second city in Indonesia with over 3 million people. It's a rather clean city, well-managed, and affordable. Very few foreigners live there. In my experience, Surabaya girls make great girlfriends.

3) South Bali
The area between Kuta, Seminyak and Denpasar attracts Indonesian girls from all over the country. Many are looking to marry foreigners.

4) Bandung
Only 3 hours away from Jakarta, Bandung is the capital of West Java and the third largest Indonesian city. It is home to a large student population. Sundanese girls are considered among the most beautiful in Indonesia.

What are the Best Dating Apps for Indonesia?
There are dozens of dating apps and sites to meet Indonesian girls, but only a few of them have a really large database of users. My favorite ones are the following:

Thousands of profiles available. Most girls on Tinder expect you to live in Indonesia so it might not be great if you're only passing by. It works best with guys who are young and good-looking.

IndonesianCupid is perfect for men who are not living in Indonesia. It's a more traditional match-making website, with a focus on personality more than looks. Recommended to prepare for a trip. Free to register here.


What Are the Best Clubs to Meet Indonesian Girls?
SkyGarden, La Favela

Basque, Loewy, Boca Rica, Fable, Dragonfly

What Are Indonesian Girls Like?
While each girl is different, there are certain personality traits that you will find in most Indonesian girls. This is especially true for those who belong to the middle class and who were educated in Indonesia. That's because they were raised in a similar environment, with modest means, in rather conservative and religious families.

Here are some traits that are characteristic of Indonesian girls:

- Easy-going: She won't yell at you if you are 10 minutes late (but she expects the same from you, even if she is 2 hours late).

- Cheerful: Indonesians usually have a positive outlook on life. As long as there is enough food on the table, she will be in a good mood to laugh, joke and tease.

- Kind: She will be genuinely concerned about your well-being. If she is not, change girlfriend as it probably means she hates you.

- Generous: Maybe not with you, but she won't hesitate to help a family member or a friends who needs a handout. Unfortunately, it might be done using your money.

- Religious: She is most likely to be a believer. The ones who date foreigners may more open-minded, but still they'll ask their boyfriend to convert if there is a difference of religion.

- Superstitious: I've lived 15 years in Indonesia and I have yet to meet a girl who doesn't believe in ghosts.

- Reserved: While she won't have any problems discussing her periods, she might be shy to express feelings or emotions. That can become an issue within your couple if she doesn't tell you when she is angry at you for instance.

- Touchy: Criticizing your Indonesian girlfriend is a minefield. Always be extra careful with your words.

- Group and Family-oriented: In general, her behavior will tend to match her family and her communities' expectations. Being unique or original is not valued as much as in the West.

- Strong: The average Indonesian girl probably had a much tougher life than the average Western girl. As a result, I believe they have a unique ability to overcome hardships.

- Pragmatic: She will accept and be satisfied with a situation that is not ideal, as long as it fulfills her most important requirements (economic security is often the main one).

Is My Girlfriend a Prostitute/a Good Girl?
Some guys wrote to me to express doubts about the girlfriend they were dating. Generally-speaking, if you have to ask the question, then you probably already know the answer but you are too blind to admit it. It is worth opening your eyes, though, because there is nothing worse than falling in love with someone who doesn't care about you.

What you can do is calculate how much she earns compared with how much she spends. If she is unemployed but possesses the latest iPhone, a car, an apartment and designer clothes, this means there is almost certainly one or several generous sponsors. Check on her Instagram also if there are many trips to Bali, Singapore, Kuala Lumpur, Hong Kong. If it was a random guy who invited her, she will probably not post any picture of him.

If she regularly goes to clubs, find out which ones. Is it often Bats, CJs or Dragonfly? That's a bit suspicious. Ask yourself how she can pay for the entrance fees and the drinks. You can have a look at a sugar baby website like SeekingArrangement and see if she or her friends are there.

There are more telltale signs that can help you figure out if she is a hooker, a sugar baby, a professional girlfriend, or just a normal girl:

→ Is she too good for you? You're 48 and balding, she's 23 and hot. That's a 95% chance she is after your wallet.

→ Does she have mutilation scars on her wrist? This is much more common than you think. It generally doesn't mean the girl tried to kill herself, but it means that she tried to manipulate someone into thinking she did. Be careful.

→ Does she always talk about how much money she needs (my brother is sick, I need to pay for my room, I need to pay my uni, etc)?

→ Does she seem to have had a lot of ex-boyfriends, with a timeline that doesn't add up? That's probably because she was dating all of them at the same time. Are you sure she is not doing the same thing with you?

→ Does she drink or smoke (especially kretek) a lot? It doesn't necessarily mean anything: I know bright Indonesian girls with good jobs and master degrees who smoke and get hammered every weekend. Yet, in most cases, it is an indication that the girl has spent a lot of time in bars/clubs. You just have to figure out what she was doing there.

→ Does she seem to be avoiding your kisses, or avoiding sex? That can be a sign that she considers being with you as "work".

→ Does she make you feel insecure? Do you feel that if she met a guy with more money tomorrow, she would go with him instead? If yes, then you know why she stays with you.


Do Indonesian Girls Like Foreigners?
I received this question dozens of times, from people of various ethnicities: White, African, Indian, Arab, Turkish, Chinese, etc.

Indonesians tend to categorize people based on their skin color, with "white" being the most desirable. Caucasians, also called bule, clearly have an advantage, though not all girls like them (read Indonesian Girls Who Never Date Foreigners). Latinos and Turkish people are often considered "bule".

Japanese and Koreans are also popular, partly due to the influence of their culture (Korean dramas, movies, mangas, K-Pop, J-Pop, etc).

With Arabs, it depends if you are a Moroccan, a Saudi, or a French from Arab descent. The latter will be considered as a bule. The others might be attractive to more conservative girls.

Darker skins, especially Indians and Africans may have more difficulties. I have heard countless time girls telling me they wouldn't date black people.

That said, the skin color isn't everything. I know white guys who can't get Indonesian girls, and I know black ones who manage to score every night. What's their secret? They are friendly, well-educated, well-dressed, polite, handsome, and they have good jobs.

Overall, being a foreigner may help or hinder you, depending on your ethnicity/nationality. But in the end, you can still make a difference with your personality/personal situation.

Is My Girlfriend Cheating on Me?
A reader of Jakarta100bars wrote a long article about this a few years ago, and I think it is still valid: 10 Signs Your Indonesian Girlfriend is Cheating on You.

What Are the Dos and Don'ts When Dating An Indonesian Girl?
If you are dating an Indonesian girl, here are a few recommendations:

- Pay for her drinks/food/movie ticket
I think you should always invite her, unless you are certain that she has a decent salary. If she insists to pay, just tell her that she can buy you coffee later.

If you don't want to pay for her, then choose an affordable restaurant with prices that match local salaries.

- Don't dress as a tourist
Jakarta is a business city, it's not Bali. Short pants and flip-flops are only acceptable on weekends. The rest of the week, make the effort to dress casual.

- Meet her in a bar/café/restaurant that has AC
The outside air in Jakarta is hot and polluted. If you don't want to look like a mess after a 1-hour dinner, choose a venue that has AC.

- Don't make derogatory comments about Indonesia
Talk about Indonesia in a positive way. Don't spend your time complaining as it will make her feel embarrassed.

I remember a terrible date I had where I started talking about how corrupt the Indonesian police was, and then the girl started crying because her dad was a policeman. Don't do that.

- Don't criticize her religion
A very touchy topic that often ends up with a disagreement. You won't change her view, so what's the point?

- Don't tell her she is skinny, short or dark
While you may mean that as a compliment, she might consider it as a criticism.

Should I Send or Give Money to My Girlfriend?
Unless you are dating an Indonesian girl who has a very good job, or who comes from a rich family, there will probably come a time in your relationship where money becomes an issue.

While it may seem normal to pay for dinners or trips, you may feel uncomfortable sending her or giving her money. After all, it is not a common thing to do in Western countries (unless your girlfriend is a sugar baby).

In Indonesia, on the contrary, it is considered normal for a boyfriend to pay for certain expenses (accommodation, phone, school fees, etc) or to give money. It is a form of commitment, and also a way to show you care and understand her situation.

Personally, I don't see any problem with that, and I've helped a few exes in the past.

Still, there are some precautions you may want to take before heading to the ATM, especially if you don't have a lot of money for yourself already.

For instance:
- Can you be sure that she is not giving the money to someone else (an Indonesian boyfriend, her dad, a friend, etc)?
- Is she honest with you about why she needs money and how she intends to spend it?
- Are there other guys giving her money as well?

You cannot be too naive if you met the girl in Bats, CJs, or Dragonfly. The prettiest ones there almost always have at least one boyfriend already.

How much you want to give depends on you and your girlfriend. What you can keep in mind is that the minimum salary in Jakarta is around 250$, and that $1,000 is the salary of a young manager in an international company.

If you live abroad, I suggest using TransferWise. It's probably one of the cheapest way to send money to Indonesia.

10 Types of Indonesian Girls Who Never Date Foreigners (and How to Date Them)

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If you think that as an expat in Indonesia you can be with any girls you want, you're wrong. Many of them would never date a foreigner for a whole variety of reasons.

As I love to do some generalizing and stereotyping, I've listed below 10 types of Indonesian girls who never date foreigners and what you can do to date them nonetheless.
Why would some girls refuse to date foreigners?

The Ones Who Don't Want To Have Sex Before Marriage
2014 study from the Pew Research Center found that 97% of Indonesians considered pre-marital sex to be morally unacceptable. On the other end of the spectrum, only 6% of French agreed with that statement.

The 2010 Greater Jakarta Transition to Adulthood Survey asked 3,006 Indonesians between 20 and 34 years old about their sexual activity. 5% of women had had pre-marital sex and 16% of men.

Let me rephrase: Only 5% of unmarried Indonesian women between 20 and 34 living in Greater Jakarta were sexually active in 2010.

Since the population in the area is so large, it still represents over 300,000 girls. The 6,700,000 remaining girls will most likely not date foreigners as few of them can accept a sexless relationship.

How to date them:
Abstinence.

The Ones Who Are More Attracted to Indonesian Men and Culture
Many Indonesian girls just prefer the Indonesian type of men. Not everyone is a fan of our hairy legs and big nose. They also feel more connected with someone with the same background, the same culture, the same values and the same objectives. They will like typical Indonesian traits better.

I also think that if you grow up watching local actors, singers or models, you will probably want a boyfriend who look like them and behave like them.

How to date them:
Shave, groom well and immerse yourself in Indonesian culture (i.e. watch sinetrons).

The Ones Who Think the Choice of Foreigners is Too Poor
I met a few girls who don't date Jakarta expats and I don't blame them. They find the choice of good guys available to be poor. As a friend explained me, most serious expats are married or in a relationship. Among the ones available for dating, very few actually want any kind of commitment.

She also feels the pool of expats is so small that it seems everyone knows each other.

How to date them:
Tell them you "just arrived" in Jakarta and criticize the behaviour of other expats.

The Ones Who Are Afraid of What Society Might Think
When an Indonesian girl is dating a foreigner, it's just as if she was wearing a big sign saying "I'm not a virgin anymore".

Indonesians are obsessed with virginity. To work in the Police or the Military, women must pass a virginity test. Inspector General Moechgiyarto justified it saying that girls who are not virgins might be "prostitutes". The equation non-virgin equates prostitutes is deeply entrenched in the Indonesian psyche unfortunately.

Many Indonesian girls who date foreigners complain that they are called names when walking the street with their foreign boyfriends, or that they must face derogatory comments. Considering this, I can really understand why some girls would avoid dating expats.

How to date them:
Don't flirt with them in public. Take their numbers and chat with them through Line or WhatsApp.

The Ones Who Are Conventional
The Indonesian society is conservative. Most people are told from an early age about what should happen to them in the future and they stick to the plan. For instance, their is a huge consensus among Indonesians that husbands are the head of the household and that the wives should serve them (over 95% - see page 30 here).

Dating or marrying a foreigner is rarely part of this narrative. It is an abnormality on many levels that require some thinking outside the box. For this reason, some Indonesian girls may feel that they should date an Indonesian guy because it is natural and less complicated.

How to date them:
Wait until they get a reality check. Among Indonesian girls who date foreigners, many used to be conventional. They "switched" to bules because they became disappointed with the narrative they were served when they were younger.

The Ones Who Are High Maintenance
Many Indonesian girls expect that their boyfriend will provide for them. I had a Sundanese girlfriend for several years and all her friends were getting some benefits from their respective boyfriends. Some would get a monthly allowance, pulsa on requests, or nice gifts like phones, clothes, perfumes and trips to Bali. A few were even getting cars and nice apartments in downtown Jakarta (those who were dating married men).

If you look closely, the most beautiful Indonesian girls are rarely dating foreigners because they know that most of them would never pay for those things.

How to date them:
Work harder and make more money.

The Ones Who Only Date Muslims
The law regarding interfaith marriage in Indonesia is complicated. As of today, the Indonesian Office of Religious Affairs forbids Muslims to marry people from different faith but allows it for Catholics, Protestants, Buddhists and Hindus.

It is therefore quite natural for a girl who is a devout Muslim to look for a companion of the same faith so that she can actually marry him. She will feel that there is no point in dating someone who does not share the same religious beliefs.

How to date them:
Convert to Islam.

The Ones Who Only Date Indo-Chinese
Rich Indonesian-Chinese girls are probably the hardest to date in Jakarta. They are very careful about their image in their community and they wouldn't ruin their reputation for a random guy. They will choose a boyfriend who will give them a better status.

They also tend to summarize some of the points mentioned above: Many will stay virgin until marriage and they are high-maintenance.

This is also true about the top 5% Indonesian political elite. Its members will often marry within that small community with motivations that are related to status more than love.

How to date them:
Mingle with the Indo-Chinese community and become accepted. Once you belong, you will date any girl easily. Avoid being poor though.

The Ones Who Don't Dare
Many Indonesian girls do not dare dating foreigners because they are shy. Most often, they cannot speak English and feel embarrassed. They don't know the codes of dating someone from another culture: What to say, what to do, how to behave, etc. The fear of being judged is often greater than the fear of death in Indonesia.

Some may also feel they are not "worthy". Surprisingly, some girls who have a whiter skin think they won't be attractive to an expat who, they heard, prefer tanned skins (or this might be another case of humble bragging).

How to date them:
Learn Indonesian. It's the easiest language in the world you have no excuses. Smile all the time and repeat "tidak apa apa".

The Ones Who Only Date Friends
Some Indonesian girls, particularly the younger ones in their late teens will only date guys from within their group of friends. They stick to the same closed group when they party, they do not use dating sites and they politely turn down any outsider trying to flirt with them. They will see a relationship with a foreigner as a threat to their belonging to the group.

How to date them:
You need approval from the whole group of friends. Or you wait until they grow up and start to think for themselves (it usually happens after they graduate and start working).

How to Send Money to Indonesia and Avoid Bank Fees

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There are many reasons people send money to Indonesia, but only a few ways that are cheap, easy and safe.

This article will be very useful to you if you are:
- A foreigner living abroad who supports his Indonesian girlfriend financially
- An Indonesian working abroad who needs to remit his salary in his Indonesian bank account
- An expat who wants to transfer funds to Indonesia to make a purchase (car, home) or an investment
- A traveler who lost his wallet and urgently needs money

I've written it based on my experience living in Indonesia for the past 12 years (first in Jakarta, then in Bali). I'm sure you have your own stories as well so please do not hesitate to leave a comment with your own tips.

TransferWiseCheapest and Easiest Way to Send Money to Indonesia
You can make your own transfer simulation in just one click here
Created in 2011 by one of Skype's founders, TransferWise is a fin-tech startup that was recently declared a unicorn (more than $1 billion valuation). It is a game changer when it comes to international money transfers.

Compared with traditional banks, TransferWise does not actually transfers any money. It maintains banks accounts in key currencies in various countries. When you make a transfer request, for instance from USD to IDR, they will debit your US bank account from their US bank account and credit your Indonesian bank account from their Indonesian bank account.

Using TransferWise, the cost of sending money from abroad to Indonesia is only 1,5% of the transferred amount (minimum charge IDR14,500).

If you transfer USD1,000, it means you will only pay USD15 (+ a credit card charge depending on your bank). There are no hidden fees and they use the official exchange rate. That's at least 8 times less than what you would pay with traditional banks.

Pros:
➝ Cheapest way to send money from abroad to Indonesia
➝ As simple as it can be, just like booking a hotel room or buying stuff from any e-commerce site
➝ Less than 10 minutes needed to make the request
➝ They do not take commission on currency exchange rate (they use the official rate)
➝ You can make an accurate simulation of the cost of the transfer in a few seconds on their website
➝ They will tell you in advance when the money will be transferred and you can follow your money in real time through their app
➝ 100% transparent: They let you know how much commission they took and the exchange rate they used

Cons:
➝ Available for transfer from USD to IDR but not yet from IDR to USD
➝ Limited number of currencies you can transfer from: EUR, USD, Pound, AUD, JPY, SGD. You can check here if your home currency is accepted.
➝ You need an Indonesian bank account to transfer the money (You must know your IBAN and your SWIFT/BIC number)
➝ The transfer is not automatic and it may take from 1 to 2 days to be completed (for an Indonesian transfer)

Western Union: Only for Urgent Money Transfer to Indonesia
Unlike TransferWise, Western Union charges a fee but also takes a commission on the exchange rate
Western Union is facing tough competition but it can still be a useful way to send money to Indonesia. In particular, if you are a traveler who lost his personal belongings and need fast money, there are no better alternatives (actually, there is also MoneyGram which is similar).

I was using Western Union a lot when I didn't have an Indonesian bank account. You can pick up the money sent in cash in any of their agents locations (for instance in post offices - there are thousands in Indonesia).

The problem with Western Union is that it is expensive. If you want to transfer 1,000USD to IDR (instant transfer from an agent to an agent), it will cost you over USD80 + an hidden exchange rate fee of around IDR500,000 (as a reminder, it costs only USD15 with TransferWise).

If you transfer the money to an Indonesian bank account, it is cheaper yet still over 40$ and it takes a few days.

Pros:
➝ You can send money to Indonesia within minutes
➝ Money can be sent even if both the sender and the receiver do not have a bank account
➝ Works for virtually every country
➝ You can pay directly on Western Union's website using your credit/debit card

Cons:
➝ Very pricey if you choose fast service and to send/receive money in agent's location
➝ Hidden commission on the currency exchange rate
➝ If you send money to an agent location, you can only use the service during operation hours (close on weekends)

A Cheap Way to Avoid: Skrill iT
Skrill iT is a mix between Western Union and TransferWise
On paper, Skrill has quite many advantages. It is fast and cheaper than Western Union (about 3% from total amount Vs. up to 15%). Also, the person who receives the money does not need to have an Indonesian bank account. she can just take the money in any Alfamart in Indonesia with her ID.

However, I received a negative comment regarding their company. I decided to publish it here in case some of you would be interested in their service for a transfer:

"Hi Thibaud, I registered with Skrill, and tried to send money to Jakarta for my girlfriend. The amount was deducted from my card and appeared in "My account" in Skrill.

However, the status of the transfer appeared as "pending" at first, and then later changed to "canceled". I tried to make another transfer, which was also not delivered to the recipient.

I've sent multiple emails to the Skrill support team. Number of responses from them:  Zero. I tried to contact them on Facebook & Twitter with the same result (Zero support).

Finally, I had to spend some $5 to call their London office - the guy there didn't have a clue what the problem was. When I asked how I could get my money back, he said that I needed to speak with a SENIOR manager, and it could only happen 24 hours after my initial call.

So, as of now, I'm waiting for these 24 hours to pass to call London again and "beg" the senior manager to have my money back.

Don't know how all this looks to you, but for me, it appears as a completely unprofessional business on the edge of being a scam.

Money not delivered, nobody answering emails, having to spend extra money for international calls, and I still don't know if I will ever get my money back.

Last but not least - I had a look at the Skrill reviews (which I should have done BEFORE using it) - and it's full of similar stories from other customers: money not delivered, zero support, very difficult to get your money back".

My conclusion? Just stick to TransferWise. It is rated 4.7 on the Apple Store and recommended by the Financial Times, The Economist, Wired, etc.

Other Ways to Send Money To Indonesia
Some online currency exchange companies are starting to offer international money transfer now with competitive rates. They will always be more expensive than TransferWise though. They can be useful only if you intend to send a lot of money to Indonesia (over 10,000$). The most famous companies are TorFXHiFX or OFX. I would advise you to try the latter as it has an online simulation tool.

PayPal is cheap when you send money in the same currency to another PayPal accounts holder but for international transfer it is not worth it (when you add up the fee and the commission on the exchange rate, it costs about 80$ for 1,000$ sent).

A transfer from a foreign bank to an Indonesian bank with SWIFT is out of the question. You shouldn't even consider it. I did it once to send 200$ and I paid 40$ in fees (that's a 20% commission!).

If you know a cheaper and more convenient way than TransferWise to send money to Indonesia, please leave me a comment below. I wouldn't mind saving even more on my transfers. I'm also interested if you have tips about how to send money from Indonesia to another country.

16 Best Museums in Jakarta

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I visited almost every museums in Jakarta this year (I'm only missing the TNI Satria Mandala Museum and the Galeri Nasional Indonesia). The idea of this review is to give you my recommendations on the best museums to visit and the ones to avoid. I also wrote individual articles for each with a full description, just click on the name of the venues to read it.

Contrary to what people might tell you, most are interesting and worth your time. They are a good introduction to Indonesian history and culture, and at the same time they give you an opportunity to explore authentic neighborhoods.

The entrance ticket for each museum is very cheap, usually between Rp2,000 and Rp20,000. You can refer to the opening and closing hours on each separate reviews. All museums are rather small and you'll often need only a couple hours to visit them.

English explanations are not always available. I don't think it's a big problem: Just take pictures and notes, then find out more on wikipedia from home. You can also visit the museums with a guide. The best tours are organized by the Indonesian Heritage Society. For more information: Jakarta Museum Tours.

Which Jakarta museums to visit in 1 day?
If you have only 1 day of sightseeing available, I would advise you to visit in priority the National Museum first and then head to Kota Tua (the Old City) where you'll find the Bank Indonesia Museum and the Jakarta History Museum. Both areas can easily be reached with the Transjakarta busway.

This is the ranking of the best museums in Jakarta, based on my visits:

Easily the best museum in Indonesia. It features quite a large collection of statues, masks and artefacts from all over the archipelago. A great introduction to the different cultures of the country. You'll need at least 3-4 hours inside to see everything properly.

I didn't have any expectations when visiting this museum, yet it turned out to be one of the most interesting I've been to. Don't be turned off by the word "bank". The museum is more about the history of trade in Indonesia, starting from before the colonization. It is just 100 meters from Taman Fatahillah.

This is the main museum on Taman Fatahillah square. It is housed in a beautiful colonial building that served as the City Hall of Batavia during Dutch times. As the name suggests, it is about the history of Jakarta, starting from prehistoric times. The visit is a bit short and hopefully they'll add more things to see in the future.

4) Museum of the Indonesian Constitution (at the Supreme Court)
Opened by President Jokowi in 2015, this is the newest and most modern museum in Jakarta. It is a nationalist museum, telling the story of how the Indonesian constitution was created. Still, you'll learn a lot about Indonesia's recent history. It makes you realize the profound gap between the hopes of the founders of the Nation and the harsh reality. You'll also get to see the Indonesian Supreme Court. Advanced reservation is required.

This museum is similar in its purpose with the Indonesian Constitution Museum. It focuses on the history of the birth of the Indonesian independence movement. It is located in the ex-STOVIA doctors' school and as such, you'll also find information about the early medicine in Indonesia.

The main art museum in Indonesia, with a collection of paintings from contemporary and older artists. Too many replicas unfortunately. It is part of the museums of Taman Fatahillah square.

Considering Indonesia has over 17,000 islands, the Museum Bahari (or Maritime Museum) could probably be improved. Currently, it feels it is in need of refurbishment. Still, I enjoyed my visit, which was a quick stop on my way to Sunda Kelapa, because of the location in an old Dutch warehouse and because I learned quite a few things about the history of Indonesia. The neighborhood was great too (fish market of Luar Batang) but the government evicted local residents recently and I haven't been there again since.

I did visit this museum but I haven't written a review about it yet. It is set in a beautiful property with a relaxing garden. There are some explanations on how Indonesian fabrics are made, particularly batiks. You can see a large collection of beautiful ones but it can be quite repetitive after a while. It is not too far from Central Jakarta, just after Tanah Abang Market.

This is a small museum with barely anything on display, yet it is worth a stop as the building is one of the nicest in Jakarta. It used to be the residence of the Governor General of the VOC.

The Museum Wayang is recommended by most tourist guides but I found it quite boring. There are almost no explanations in English and the place is not well-maintained. Not recommended unless you have a fascination for wayangs, puppets and masks.

The only positive thing about the Bank Mandiri Museum is its location, inside a Dutch colonial building. Apart from that, most of the things on displays are old ATMs, old typewriters, old computers, etc.

12) Museum Taman Prasasti
I still have to write this review as well. Anyway, this "museum" is actually an old Dutch graveyard and not a proper Museum, despite its name. It's not a bad place though and if you pass by, it won't hurt you to have a look.

Not visited yet:

Museum Galeri National Indonesia: This museum of art will be next on my list when I go back to Jakarta in September.

Musée Satriamandala: A military museum that belongs to the Indonesian TNI (Army). Apparently it's fun for kids.

A1 Museum: A private contemporary art museum.

Museum of Modern and Contemporary Art in Nusantara (MACAN): As announced by the NY Times, the MACAN is set to open in 2017. It is owned by the billionnaire Haryanto Adikoesoemo and will feature its private collection of artworks. It can probably become the best museum in Jakarta then.

You can read my article: 10 Best Things To Do in Jakarta for more daytime activities in the city.

250 Essential Indonesian Words You Should Learn

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I wrote this list of 250 most useful Indonesian words to complement my article How I Learned to Speak Indonesian in 1 Month.

I recommend you to memorize all them by heart. It's a boring process, yet it won't take so much time. Spend 10 minutes on the list every day and you'll know all of them in two weeks. Once you're done, I guarantee you will be able to get by in 90% of daily life situation.

A smart and fun way to learn more words is to use the website IndonesianPod101. They have hundreds of exercises and games (flashcards for instance) with the Indonesian pronunciation. Have a look, a large part of the website is free to use. If you choose a paid plan, use this link IndonesianPod101 - 20 Free Videos to get an extra 20 videos for free!
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Personal Pronouns
These are essential as you will use them in all sentences.

I, Me or Mine = Aku (informal) or Saya (formal)
You, Your or Yours = Kamu (informal) or Anda (formal). Plural you (Kalian) is rarely used.
He, She, Him, Her or His = Dia
It or Its = Ini (for something your hand can reach) or Itu (for something further away)
We, Our or Ours = Kita or Kami (if the person you are talking to is not included)
They, Their or Theirs = Mereka

Formal/Informal
Unless you are speaking to a kid/teenager or a close friend, it is better to address someone with a formal pronoun.

Another way to be formal is to replace the personal pronouns with the title and the name of the person you are addressing. For instance, instead of asking me "How old are you?" (Kamu umur berapa?), you could say "How old is Mr Frederic?" (Umur Berapa Bapak Frederic?).

Adverbs
Since adverbs can modify the meaning of a verb or adjective, they'll help you express more complicated ideas and feelings without the need to learn too much additional vocabulary.

Maybe = Mungkin
A lot = Banyak
A little = Sedikit
All = Semua
About = Kira-kira
Enough = Cukup
Really = Emang
Already = Sudah
Also = Juga
Ever = Pernah
Never = Tidak Pernah
Often = Sering
Here = Sini (nearby) or Sana (far away)
Later = Nanti
Before = Dulu (when speaking about time, not distance)
More = Lebih
More... than = Lebih.... dari
Less = Kurang
Less... than = Kurang... dari
Same = Sama
Same as = Sama dengan
Very = Sekali or Banget (informal)
Just, Only = Saja or Aja (informal)

Interrogative Pronouns
Why = Kenapa or Kok (informal)
Who = Siapa
How many/How much = Berapa
What = Apa
How = Bagaimana/Gimana (informal)
When = Kapan
Where = Mana (often used with Di, Ke or Dari, see below)

Other Pronouns
Other/Others = Lain/Yang lain
Many/Much = Banyak
Each = Setiap
Most = Paling

Preposition & Conjunction
Until = Sampai (also means "to arrive")
With = Sama
Without = Tanpa
But = Tetapi or Tapi (informal)
And = Dan
If/When = Kalau or Kalo (informal)
Because = Karena
Therefore/So = Jadi
For = Untuk

Adjectives
Small = Kecil
Big = Besar
Old = Tua (for the age of a person, a building, etc) or Lama (for a law, a rule, a tariff, etc). Lama also means "Long time".
New = Baru
Young = Muda
Hard = Keras
Strong = Kuat
Far = Jauh
Near = Dekat
Beautiful = Cantik (for women), Ganteng (for men), Indah (for a landscape or an object)
Hot = Panas
Cold = Dingin
Sure = Yakin
Good = Bagus
Bad = Jelek (also means "ugly")
Cheap = Murah
Expensive = Mahal
Shy = Malu
Heavy = Berat
Angry = Marah
Happy = Senang
Sad = Sedih
Well = Baik
Tired = Capek
Smart = Pintar
Difficult = Susah/Sulit
Easy = Mudah
Alone = Sendiri
Sick = Sakit
Different = Beda
To be confused = Bingung

Verbs
To speak a language = Bahasa
To say = Bilang
To talk = Bicara
To want = Mau
To take = Ambil
To help = Bantu
To read = Baca
To go = Pergi
To live = Tinggal
To eat = Makan
To drink = Minum
To meet = Bertemu
To sleep = Tidur
To see = Lihat
To buy = Beli
To like = Suka
To love = Cinta
To hate = Benci
To sit = Duduk
To look = Liat
To watch = Nonton
To kiss = Cium
To start = Mulai
To work = Kerja
To understand = Mengerti
To need = Perlu
To use = Pakai
To possess = Punya
To agree = Setuju
To send = Kirim
To play (a game) = Main
To get, to obtain or to receive = Dapat
To walk = Jalan kaki (literally "to go by foot)
To feel or to taste = (Me)Rasa
Can = Bisa
May = Boleh
Should/Must = Harus

Greetings and Introducing Yourself
Selamat = Safe (It is the equivalent of "Good" in English)
Selamat pagi = Good morning
Selamat siang = Good day (from 11AM to 2PM)
Selamat sore = Good afternoon (from 2PM until sunset)
Selamat malam = Good evening/Good night (after sunset)
Apa Kabar = How are you?
Thank you = Terima Kasih (often said "Makasih")
Name = Nama
Age = Umur

Nationality
For starting, just learn your own. In my case: French = Orang Perancis.

The word "Bule" is also often used to refer to white people even though it is pejorative.

People (Orang)
Dad = Ayah
Mother = Ibu
Kid = Anak
Friend = Teman
Mister = Bapak (or Pak)
Madam = Ibu
Woman = Wanita
Man = Laki-laki
Girl = Cewek
Boy = Cowok

Food (Makanan) and Drinks (Minuman)
Water = Air
Rice = Nasi
Chicken = Ayam
Fish = Ikan
Egg = Telur
Fried = Goreng
Grilled = Bakar
Sweet = Manis
Delicious = Enak

Directions and Transport
Left = Kiri
Right = Kanan
Straight = Lurus or Terus
Through = Lewat
Before = Sebelum
After = Setelah
Up = Atas
Down = Bawah
In front = Depan
Behind = Belakang
Inside = Dalam
Outside = Luar
Next to = Sebelah
Between = Antara
To Turn = Belok
To Ride = Naik
Car = Mobil
Motorbike = Motor
Traffic jam = Macet
Jalan = Street

Ke / Di / Dari
Ke means "to" or "in the direction of".
Di means "at" 
Dari means "from"

Those pronouns can be used without a verb. For instance, "dia ke Jakarta", which literally translates as "He - in the direction of - Jakarta" means "He went to Jakarta" or "He is going to Jakarta" (depending on the context).

They are also often used with "Mana" (Where): Kamu ke mana? (Where are you going?), Kamu di mana? (Where are you?), Kamu dari mana? (Where are you from?).

Nature
Tree = Pohon
Dog = Anjing
Cat = Kucing

Location (Tempat)
Beach = Pantai
Mountain = Gunung
House = Rumah
City = Kota
Restaurant = Restoran or Warung (low class)
Mosque = Mesjid
Shop = Toko
Office = Kantor
Country = Negara
School = Sekolah
Village = Desa

Colour (Warna)
Green = Hijau
Red = Merah
Blue = Biru
Yellow = Kuning
Black = Hitam
White = Putih

Time (Waktu)
Date = Tanggal
Second = Detik
Minute = Menit
Hour = Jam
Day = Hari
Week = Minggu
Month = Bulan
Year = Tahun
Tomorrow = Besok (also means after tomorrow)
Yesterday = Kemarin (also means before today)

Numbers
Money = Uang
Age = Umur
0 = Kosong/Nol
First = Pertama
1 = Satu
2 = Dua
3 = Tiga
4 = Empat
5 = Lima
6 = Enam
7 = Tujuh
8 = Delapan
9 = Sembilan
10 = Sepuluh
11 = Sebelas

12 to 19  = N + Belas such as "Dua Belas" (12), "Tiga Belas" (13), etc....
20 to 99 = N + Puluh such as "Dua Puluh" (20, "Tiga Puluh" (30), Empat Puluh Dua (42)
100 = Seratus
200 to 999 = N + Ratus such as "Dua Ratus" (200), "Dua Ratus Lima Puluh Tiga" (253)
1000 = Seribu
After 2000 = N + Ribu such as "Dua Ribu" (2000), "Dua Ribu Enam Ratus Empat Puluh Delapan" (2648)

Days (Hari) and Months (Bulan)
Monday = Senin
Tuesday = Selasa
Wednesday = Rabu
Thursday = Kamis
Friday = Jumat
Saturday = Sabtu
Sunday = Minggu

January = Januari
February = Februari
March = Maret
April = April
May = Mei
June = Juni
July = Juli
August = Agustus
September = September
October = Oktober
November = November
December = Desember

Next = Depan
→ Ex: Next Monday = Senin depan. Next week = Minggu depan.

Previous = Kemarin
→ Ex: Previous Monday = Senin kemarin. Last week = Minggu kemarin

Body (Badan) and Clothes (Baju)
Leg or Foot = Kaki
Arm or Hand = Tangan
Finger = Jari
Face = Muka
Eye = Mata
Mouth = Mulut
Pants = Celana
T-Shirt = Kaos
Shirt = Kemeja
Shoes = Sepatu

Important words that need an explanation:

Yang
I use this word a lot. Depending on the context, it could be translated as "the one", "that is", "which is", "those", "which", "whom", "whose", "who".

→ Aku suka mobil yang di depan rumahnya  = I like the car which is in front of his house.
→ Kamu suka yang mana?  = Which one do you like?

There is another use that can't really be translated into English. When you talk about something that has specific characteristics, you should use the structure "Noun + Yang + Adjective" instead of "Adjective + Noun". For instance, to translate "He has a red car", it is better to say " Dia punya mobil yang merah" instead of "dia punya mobil merah".

Finally, it is sometimes placed after a pronoun to emphasize the latter. For instance, "apa yang kamu mau" (literally: What is it that you want?) can be asked instead of "kamu mau apa?" (What do you want?).

Brother/Sister
There is not an exact translation for the words brother and sister in Indonesian. Instead, you may use one of these:
→ Saudara means both brothers and sisters (the children of your parents)
→ Adik means younger brother and younger sister
→ Kakak means older brother and older sister
→ Adik/kakak perempuan means younger/older sister
→ Adik/kakak laki-laki means younger /older brother

No
All these words are used to express negation:
→ Bukan, placed before a noun or pronoun, means "not": "Kamu bukan orang Perancis" (You are not French)
→ Tidak, placed before a verb, an adjective or alone, means "no" "do not" or "not": "Aku tidak suka" (I do not like). "Dia tidak baik" (He is not good).
→ Tak, Ngak, Gak are informal, yet popular ways to say "Tidak": "Aku gak bisa" (I cannot).
→ Jangan means "Do not" in imperative sentences: "Jangan bicara!" (Don't talk!).
→ Belum: If they can, Indonesians will avoid using "Tidak" or "Bukan", preferring the softer "Belum" (not yet) or "Kurang" (less). For instance, you never say "Aku tidak nikah" (I'm not married) but "Aku belum nikah" (I'm not married yet). Instead of answering "Aku tidak suka cowok ini" (I don't like this guy), it is better to say "Aku kurang suka cowok ini" (I like this guy less [than the others]).

Ada
Ada indicates the presence of something and it could be translated as "there is" or "there are": Ada 5 orang di rumah ini (There are 5 people in this house). You can use it to ask questions: Ada ... ? means "Is there ... ?" or "Are there ....?"

Sama
The first meaning of sama is "With", but it can also mean "the same" (in that case, you can add "Dengan" to express "As").
→ Mereka sama teman = they are with friends
→ Umur kamu sama dengan umur aku = Your age is the same as my age

Jadi
Jadi has two meanings:
→ "To become", for instance in the sentence: Dia jadi marah = He became angry
→ Placed at the beginning of a sentence, it corresponds to the adverb "So". For instance in the sentence: Jadi, kamu marah? = So you are angry?

Lagi
→ Placed after a verb, lagi means "again", "once more". For instance: "Aku sakit lagi" = "I'm sick, again".
→ Placed before a verb, it is used to express a current state or action. "Aku lagi makan" = "I'm eating now". It is often an answer to the informal idiom "Lagi ngapain?" or "Lagi apa" = "What are you doing?"

Mau
"Mau" has two meanings:
→ "Want": "Aku mau pergi sama kamu" = "I want to go with you"
→ "Will" (future tense): "Mau hujan" = "It will rain".

To do and to make
There are several ways to say "to do" in Indonesian:
→ "Lakukan", which means to do something in general. It is often used in interrogations: "Apa yang dia lakukan?" (What is he doing?)
→ "Bikin", which means to do something or make something that results in a tangible product. Ex: "Saya bikin pasta" = "I'm making pasta"
→ "Buat", which is a more informal way to say "Bikin". It can also mean "For". Ex: "Ini buat kamu" = "This is for you" (literally: This made for you).

Habis
"Habis" has two meanings:
→ "To finish" or "finished". For instance, "Aku habis makan" = "I'm done eating"; "Airnya sudah habis" = "The water is finished". "Selesai" is a synonym.
→ "After". For instance, "Habis makan, aku mau ke kantor" = "After eating, I will go to office". "Setelah" is a synonym.

-Nya
There are many suffixes and prefixes in Bahasa, but none is more useful than -nya. Added at the end of a noun, it indicated possession and could be translated as "his", "her", "its".

→ Ini rumahnya = This is his house

Words You Don't Need to Learn
Some words have an Indonesian translation but you can pronounce them in English and everyone will understand:

Yes (Ya)
Please
Sorry
Hello
Toilet
Tissue
TV
Cinema
Movie
Music
Taxi
Airport
Mall
Handphone or HP (Hapé)
SMS
Sim Card
Football
Banana
Orange
Apple
Bank
Hospital
Hotel
Apartment
Restaurant
Pasta
Burger
Sandwich

Whenever you are missing an Indonesian word in a conversation, just try the English one. It works more often than you'd think.

10 Basic Indonesian Grammar Rules You Should Know

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This article about the 10 most important grammar rules in Bahasa Indonesia (Indonesian) is a complement to my guide: How I learned Bahasa Indonesia in 1 Month.

By learning these rules, you should improve your conversational skills significantly without putting in too much effort.

I'm not a native Indonesian speaker so if you think I wrote something wrong, please don't hesitate to leave a comment.

Placing words in the right order in Indonesian
Most of the time, you can place words in the same order as you would in English: Subject + Verbs + Object.

There are a few exceptions though:

Personal pronouns:
They are placed after the noun. For instance: "Your cat" = "Kucing kamu" (literally "Cat you")

Adjectives:
They are also placed after the noun. For instance: "New car" = "Mobil baru" (literally "Car new").



Talking about a future event in Indonesian
As you may know, there are no tenses in Indonesian. Therefore, you need to use specific adverbs or dates if you want to talk about a future event.

Akan
This is the most common way to talk about something that will happen in the future. It is a bit formal though and you can omit the word in some conversations as long as there is a time marker (see below).

Mau
This verb (meaning "to want") is often used to replace "akan" in informal conversations.

Example: "He will graduate in 2020"
→ Dia akan lulus tahun 2020
→ Dia mau lulus tahun 2020

About time markers:
Time markers are adverbs or sentences that indicate the time or date of an event: Two of the most common are:
→ "Besok", meaning "Tomorrow" but also, confusedly, "Later after today" or "Next".
→ "Nanti" meaning "Later".

After "Nanti", you can add a more precise timing if you can: "Nanti malam" ("Later tonight"), "Nanti sore" ("Later this afternoon") or "Nanti jam 2" ("Later at 2PM").

Talking about a past event in Indonesian
There is no past tense in Indonesian. Instead, time markers are used to indicate that the action occurred in the past:

→ "Kemarin", meaning "Yesterday" (or "Before yesterday"). For instance: "Kemarin, saya nonton movie" = "Yesterday, I watched a movie" (literally, "Yesterday, I watch movie").
→ "Pernah", meaning "Once" or "Ever". For instance: "Aku pernah cinta sama dia" = "I once loved her".
→ "Telah" or "Sudah", meaning "Already" or "Just". For instance, "Saya sudah makan" = "I just ate" (literally, "I just eat").
→ "Tadi", meaning "Just before" or "A short while ago". For instance, "Tadi, saya bertemu sama teman" = "Just before, I met with my friend" (literally, "Just before, I meet with my friend").
→ "Dulu", meaning "Before". For instance, "Dulu, aku suka main futbol" = "Before, I used to like playing football" (literally, "Before, I like to play football").
→ "Baru", meaning "Just" when placed before a verb. For instance, "Aku baru makan" = "I just ate" (literally, "I just eat"). "Baru" can also mean "New" when used as an adjective.
→ The expression "Yang lalu", which could be translated as "Ago". For instance, "5 years ago" = "5 tahun yang lalu"
→ An exact date. For instance, "I was born in 1990" = "Saya lahir tanggal 1990".

Talking about events happening now in Indonesian
Two words are used to talk about current events (present continuous in English):

Lagi is the most used in informal conversations. Placed before the verb, it generally describes a short action (eating, watching a movie, going shopping, etc). For instance, "I'm eating" = "Aku lagi makan"

Sedang is more formal and it can be used for both short and long actions (learning a language, studying, working in a company). It is also placed before the verb. For instance, "Saya sedang cari kerja" = "I'm searching for a job".

Giving a date and the time in Indonesian
How to express the time or a date is different in English and in Indonesian. In the latter, before the time marker, you must add a noun to specify what the marker is about. For instance:

Time:
Jam + numerical. Example: "Jam 3" = "3 o'clock"

Day:
Hari + day. Example: "Friday" = "Hari Jumat"

Months:
Bulan + month. Example: "November" = "Bulan November"

Year:
Tahun + year. Example: "2017" = "Tahun 2017"

Specific date:
Tanggal + date. Example: "January 10th" = "Tanggal 10 Januari"

Using prefixes and suffixes in Indonesian
Many words in Indonesian are formed from a root word - verb, noun, adjective - to which a suffix or a prefix is added (sometimes both).

Those suffixes and prefixes modify the meaning to the root word according to specific rules. If you learn these, you will be able to improve your vocabulary significantly.

Based on my experience, this is the hardest part of learning Indonesian grammar. As a beginner though, you only need to understand the concept and to be able to recognize when there is a prefix or a suffix.

These are the most common prefixes:

Ber-: Usually, it is added to a noun, a verb or an adjective to form a verb whose meaning is "Having the attributes of...".
Example: Berkacamata = To wear glasses (from "kacamata" = "glasses").

Men-: Most often, it is added to a noun, a verb or an adjective to form a verb whose subject is actively doing something.
Ex: Mengajar = To teach (from "ajar" = "teaching").

Nge-: A very informal way to create verbs from nouns or adjectives. It is popular among young people to adapt English words to Indonesian.
Ex: Ngebeer = to drink beer, Ngechat = to chat, Ngecharge = to charge a phone, Ngegym = to go to the gym, etc.

Pen-: Generally, it is added to a noun, an adjective or a verb to form the noun of a person doing/or being as the root word.
Ex: Pemalu = A shy person (from "malu" = "shy").

Ter-: The easiest one, it is a superlative that can be translated by "the most":
- "Terkenal" = "The most famous" (literally, "the most known")

Di-: Adding "Di" before a verb is how to form the passive voice in Indonesian.
- Dipegang = to be grabbed (from pegang = to grab)

These are the most common suffixes:

-nya: A very common and useful suffix that you can add to a noun. It means "its", "his", her" or "the".
Ex: Mobilnya = "His car", "her car" or "the car", depending on the context (from "mobil" = "car").

-an: It is added to a verb or to an adjective to form a noun.
Ex: Makanan = Food (from "makan" = "to eat")

-kan: It is often added at the end of a verb, an adjective or a noun to form a transitive verb. In particular, it is used when something is done for the benefit of another. It is also used to give orders.
Ex: Matikan lampu! = Turn off the light (from "mati" = "dead")

To know more about suffixes and prefixes, you can also read this excellent page: http://indodic.com/affixeng.html

Plural in Indonesian
You may have read that to form a plural in Indonesian, you can just say any word twice. For instance, to say "kids", you can say "anak-anak" (from "anak" = "a kid").

This is not completely true. Doubling a word does not always work. It is adequate to translate an expression like "a bunch of", but it is better to avoid in any other cases. In most informal speeches, the best thing to do is to leave the word as it is. Your interlocutor should understand if there is a plural from context alone. To help with that, you can use numbers or adverbs like "banyak" (a lot) or "beberapa" (several).

Asking questions
The easiest way to ask yes-no (or closed) questions in Indonesian is to add a question mark at the end of a sentence. For instance: "Is he cooking?" = "Dia lagi masak?" (literally "He is cooking?").

You can also start your sentence with the formal "Apakah", or its shortened version "apa". For instance, "Is he your older brother?" = "Apa (kah) dia kakak kamu?". "Apakah" means "Is..." or "Are...".

When using an interrogative pronoun such as "Apa" ("What"), "Berapa" ("How many"/"How much"), "Bagaimana" ("How"), "Siapa" ("Who"), etc, you can place it either at the end or at the beginning of your sentence.

A major difference with English is that the word "Apa" (What) cannot be used with people's name or numbers. To translate "What is your name?", you cannot say "Apa nama kamu?" (literally: What name you?) but "Siapa nama kamu ?" (literally, Who Name You). Similarly, to translate "How old are you?", you cannot say "Apa umur kamu?" (literally, "What age you?") but "Berapa umur kamu?" (literally: "How much age you?").

Note that the interrogative pronoun "apa" and the shortened version of apakah, "apa", are two different words with different meanings. 

Saying No in Indonesian
Negation can be expressed by different means in Indonesian.

→ In formal speeches, you will use "Bukan" in front of a noun or a pronoun, and "Tidak" in front of an adjective or a verb.

For instance:
Kamu bukan ayah aku = You are not my dad
Aku tidak mau keluar = I don't want to go out

→ When speaking informally to friends, you will often replace "Tidak" with "Ngak", "Gak" or "Tak".

For instance:
Aku gak mau keluar = I don't want to go out

→ When giving a negative order, you should use "Jangan" at the beginning of the sentence.

For instance:
Jangan bilang itu! = Don't say that!

→ When talking about your experiences, your wishes or your tastes, it is better to avoid using a strict negation. The words "Belum" ("Not yet") and "Kurang" (Less) can replace "Tidak" or "Bukan" to form more polite sentences.

For instance:
Instead of "Aku tidak suka makanan Jepang" ("I don't like Japanese food"), say: "Aku kurang suka makanan Jepang" (literally, "I less like Indonesian food").

Instead of "Aku tidak mau nikah" ("I don't want to marry"), say: "Aku belum mau nikah" ("I don't want to marry yet").

To be or not to be?
"To be" is the most common English verb, yet its Indonesian translation, "adalah", is rarely used. It might be confusing for beginners, but the rules are actually quite simple.

→ Generally speaking, "to be" is not needed (unless you want to sound formal). This is particularly true when it is used to describe something/someone or to give characteristics.

For instance:
I am a man = Aku cowok (literally, "I man").
He is fat = Dia gemuk (literally, "He fat").

→ You can use "adalah" to make a statement that two things are equivalent.

For instance:
"Rusia adalah negara terbesar di dunia" = "Russia is the largest country on earth"

→ Another use of "Adalah" is to say that something or someone is part of a group/structure.

For instance:
"Dia adalah pengawai pemerintah" = "He is a government employee".

Indicating presence
To say "There is" or "There are", you should use the popular word "Ada" (also: "Tidak ada" = "There is not"). It is placed at the beginning of sentence such as:
"Tidak ada rokok lagi di toko" = "There are no more cigarettes at the store"
"Ada siapa di rumah kamu?" = "Who is at your house?" (literally, "There is who at your house?")

In informal conversations, "Ada" can also mean "to be present". For instance: "Dia ada di rumah" = "He is at home".

10 Best Bars Worth Visiting in Downtown Toronto

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Toronto, the largest city and the economical capital of Canada, is known as a multifaceted metropolis that has a lot to offer to just about everyone who stays there. Among the many reasons to visit it, there is one that stands out in particular, its nightlife. In fact, it is so fun and diverse that it is often considered the best in the country (tied with Montréal, which as a large student population).

Note: This was not written by Jakarta100bars.

10 Best Bars in Downtown Toronto
If you want to have a vibrant social life, I would recommend staying as near as possible to the south of Ossington Avenue, between Queen Street and Dundas Street. For tourists, there are plenty of nice hotels there. For long-term residents, ideally, you could rent/buy an apartment in one of the new condos in downtown Toronto such as Artists' Alley or YSL Residences. Prices are usually on the upper side, but with such a location, you are guaranteed to never get bored as you will always be just a stone's throw away from the best bars in the city.

Below are some of my favorites:

1. Mahjong Bar
Enter this retro speakeasy inspired by the Cantonese game called Mahjong to enjoy playful blends of cocktails. It is a popular spot for groups as drinking at Mahjong bar feels like you are part of a cool secret club. Be suited for younger people in their 20s. Reasonable prices.

2. Bar Raval
The covered patio of this Spanish-inspired bar is often filled with patrons sipping on sophisticated cocktails and munching on tapas. Its wooden interior is full of curving, rich wood so you can have a feel of Spain without living downtown Toronto. Do make a reservation or come early as it is almost always packed. If full, you can still go inside but you'll have to stand up or sit at the bar. Expensive but a must-do while in Toronto.

3. Shameful Tiki Room Toronto
If you happen to see blacked-out windows and a heavy velvet curtain at the entrance, you know that you are about to see a Parkdale tiki bar. Its boozes are as playful as its full-on Polynesian interior. This bar is great to visit if you are with a large group of friends as they have some huge cocktails that can be shared, including a 65$ Southern Drawl.

4. Farside
This dive bar in East Chinatown boasts drinks that vary from discounted domestic beers to elevated cocktails. Very laidback and unpretentious. They have many events during the week, including quiz nights and 80s/90s DJ nights.

5. Sweaty Betty's
People go here for no-frills cocktails and a great selection of beers and whiskeys. It keeps you fueled without breaking the bank which makes it obvious why it is Toronto’s longest-standing dives.

6. Black Dice Cafe
If you want to step back in time while listening to tunes on the jukebox while sipping Asian-inspired cocktails, then this is the place to be. Aside from the vintage vibe, people also go here for their famous line of Japanese whiskey and sake.

7. Good Fortune Bar
If you are in Toronto and you happen to miss Miami Beach, then this basement bar can be your best bet. Known for its pink walls and palm leaf motifs, this bar offers an impressive list of retro-tropical beverages that will make you feel like you are at the beach. A big plus is that you can order the food from La Carnita, the Mexican restaurant upstairs.

8. C’est What
If you want to have a drink with your friends even on cold rainy evenings, this is the bar you should be hanging out at as it boasts multiple fireplaces in addition to its 40 plus beers on tap.

9. Paris Paris
With an incredible wine list and gastronomic foods to pair every glass with, no wonder why Paris Paris made it to the top 10. Not to mention it has hosted special wine night events of famous superstars and wine importers.

10. Bar Chef
Bartenders here pride themselves on preparing cocktails that taste as good as they look. You just might want to take a photo of the drinks before taking your first shot.

Toronto’s Best Street for Bars
This ranking of the 10 best bars in downtown Toronto goes to show that there is always somewhere to enjoy good music, booze, and company in this city. Of course, there are a lot more venues for you to try, and you should not hesitate to explore on your own. It's sometimes more fun to go on a little adventure rather than just following someone's list...

A perfect location to do some random bar-hopping in Toronto is Ossington Street, just between Dundas St. and Queen St. This is the heart of Toronto's nightlife with dozens and dozens of bars and nightclubs. You can easily walk from one place to another, I guarantee you'll have a great night out!
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